To want a designer vagina? Any success stories?

[Charging]

Following obesity (now healthy weight) and vaginal delivery of three big babies (10lb+), I’m not happy with the state of play down there. Whilst nobody has ever been rude about it, men have hinted about it - I’ve been asked ‘can you pull in?’ and ‘was your last partner big?’. One exclaimed ‘oh, it’s a big one’. I’m dying just typing this

It’s a massive source of embarrassment for me and it’s preventing me from enjoying my sex life. It’s something I worry a lot about when dating.

I’m recently single and about to come into some money, so WIBU to have surgery done? What is putting me off is the risk that I would die leaving my young children motherless, the pain and having to admit to my parents that I’m having cosmetic surgery on my vag (we’re quite a prudish family and they’d have to help with childcare while I’m in hospital so they’d need to know).

I’ve looked into non surgical procedures but find them confusing and not sure if they’d work (has anyone found them effective?).

[CookPassBabtridge]

I'm glad you have an answer for it OP and can get treatment. You probably put up with it as you thought it's just how it had to be after birth! I had two sections by choice and part of the reason was I didn't want damage downstairs as it can be so brutal.

[twattymctwatterson]

The main thing you need to do is seriously change the men you're sleeping with

[gscmackenzie]

Just wondered if the poster went ahead with the surgery and wether it was successful? ...I only have one baby, he was big, and has completely ruined my downstairs area internally...there def aren’t any muscles on one side of my vagina
Walls and I have a bladder prolapse and small bowel prolapse too...fun times! I plucked up the courage about a year ago to see the gp...who referred me to the most rude consultant I had ever met who said to me ‘that’s just what happens when you have children’ and to basically get on with it...bearing in mind all of the other ladies in the waiting area were over the age of 70! 😡 trying to look into private options now...but not enough funds! 🤷‍♀️