To wish DH would sort Xmas arrangements with his parents

[Stopmeifyouveheardthisonebefor]

Me and DH in our 40s, together over 20 years, 2 teenage DC. Always spend Xmas with ILs. It used to always be at PIL house and then around 8 years ago me and DH insisted that we were staying at home and “doing Xmas” for our DC but IL very welcome to join us. Which they always have but it is always a sensitive topic every year.

And every year DH refuses to raise subject and hopes I will have the awkward conversation with MIL.

This year FIL has been ill but better now and DH wonders if it would be kind to let the PIL do the hosting as a big deal for them. DD (14) loves helping do Xmas at home and doesn’t want to go anywhere. I don’t mind but wonder if it is too much for PIL now.

Clearly a nice open discussion would be the way to go now it is November. I have enough family business on my own side to sort. I told DH it was up to him to talk to both PIL and DC and get it arranged. Is this an unreasonable ask?

Of course it's not unreasonable! Tell your husband you are not dealing with this because firstly, he's a grown man and can talk to his own parents, and secondly, you're not his bloody secretary. Completely wash your hands of this.

My husband deals with his parents not me.