Dh beard

[Threeminis]

I honestly don't know what to do about this.

Dh and I have been together 15 years. In this time I have always said that I don't like facial hair, I have really sensitive skin on my face and always end up with what I presume to be stubble rash, which hurts. I was under the impression he felt the same way up until the last couple of months. He spent a few years working offshore - he's now home all the time - and wasn't shaving when he was away (4 weeks on, 4 home) he now says he doesn't like not having a beard.

Now, I'm expecting to get a bit of a hard time here being AIBU but I don't see a way around this. Dh feels as though I don't make enough effort in the bedroom but I find it such a turnoff. I love him, I really do but don't know how to fix this.

In the interest of trying not to dripfeed - we have 2 ds and I suffered quite badly with pnd especially with ds1 who is now 11. I lost interest in sex and any type of intimacy and maybe he is worried this is the same thing.
Also I will point out I have never felt forced into anything.

Basically has anyone else felt this way? If so, how did you overcome it?

"DH, I have sensitive skin and your beard makes it painful to kiss you. I also don't find you as attractive with a beard."

That's it, there's your statement. What he does next is up to him.
He may say,
"Well screw you, it's my face, I'll have a beard of I want one"
Butt he knows how you feel so any lack of sex etc is his own doing.

Ultimately it is his face and absolutely his choice. But it is also not your fault you don't like beards.

There will likely be plenty of people along to recommend you stop shaving your legs in a minute.

I'm really sorry to hear this.

I went off sex a bit over the years and this year have made an effort to have more sex with dh.

It's worked well and the more sex I have the more I want, within reason.

But, I do think you are reasonable to not find a beard attractive and to not want to have much to do with it.

Could you talk to your dh about how it feels to you?

Good luck.

Thanks for answering, that's pretty much word for word what I said to him tonight.

I just want to get over this.. you are absolutely right, it is his face!

Italian, I had to do the same after my pnd.
It really made a difference, but he didn't have a beard then

will pm you!