To wonder where my tribe is?

[AmbitiousHalibut]

Hi all,
I'm a SAHM and I have grown to love it. The early years of two under two was sheer hard work and I didn't feel at all natural at it, but my kids are at a lovely age now and I feel like I've grown into myself. I have 2 or 3 "proper" friends whom I love and can totally be myself with, but they are from school and my former career and live at least an hour away.
My DH and I moved to this area a decade ago; it's lovely in lots of ways, but I have really struggled to find like minded people. I've tried to be friendly and positive, get involved in groups, do my bit on school committees etc, but I just feel like I'm always on best behaviour. I see other mums bonding for life, making each other godparents to each other's kids and so on, and I feel left out of it. I watched the movie Bad Moms recently and suddenly panicked that I'm the Gwendolyn! I try to be kind and go out of my way to help if people need it, but I sometimes wonder if people think my politeness or positive attitude is fake.
I don't know what I'm asking here. I guess I would just like reassurance that my tribe is out here somewhere, or that it's ok to not feel part of things and that other people feel like outsiders sometimes too.
Any thoughts?

Hi there, quick post to say I completely recognise what you describe though as the kids have grown into teenagers have gradually become more involved with others. Maybe not my tribe exactly but feeling less on the outside and enjoying that. Have lived here now for 13 years so did take a while. Must be especially hard as SAHM - I work full time, think I’d have found it hard otherwise. Good luck and keep on being positive.

One of your tribe is here, hello!! Don’t worry there’s all of us out there😊.

It took me till my youngest was about 8 or 9 till I kind of found my tribe. I have a few from different groups who are wonderful and some who I’d rather go without . I wish I could have the one perfect tribe but alas it’s a mixture.

I think you sound absolutely lovely and honest and know you’ll be just fine

Thanks ladies 😊 I'll keep on looking for them!