Cheating stags?!

[NotUmbongoUnchained]

My husband has just arrived home 4 days early froma stag do.
Apparently all the stags have been unfaithful to their wives and my husband is feeling really anxious in wether he should say anything to their wives.
He’s the kind of guy that takes on other people’s guilt and he’s feeling horrendous.

Should we message the wives? I know I would want to know, but without any actual proof we could just be damaging our friendships.

No stay out of it. I’m wondering if he was party to it aswell and is feeling guilty for his own personal reasons.

Absolutely not. This won’t go well.

At best, you’ll look like the naive wife whose husband cheated on her and is trying to push the blame on others

At worst, you’ll lose that entire friendship group

Stay out of it

No, they arrived yesterday afternoon and he FaceTimed me at 7pm from his hotel room saying he was coming home. If he cheated, the guilt would actually kill him. He wouldn’t hide it well at all.

I certainly wouldn't lie to cover up their infidelity. They were very stupid to cheat so openly if they didn't want people to know about it.

Hang on, they arrived yesterday afternoon and they've all cheated already?! Where are they, a brothel?

Keep out of it - he is not responsible for their actions.

Then he would have nothing to be guilty about would he, I wouldn’t completely think he was completely innocent in this situation

So they were there for a couple of hours and all of them managed to cheat? Who are these men? Where is this happening? It sounds a bit far fetched unless your details are incorrect. 

I'd stay out of it... but I guess it depends on the relationship with the wives? (ie who are you friend with?)

Sadly, I think cheating on stag do's is incredibly common

So they're in Amsterdam or similar and they all went and fucked prostitutes? Can't see how a group of pissed up men could cheat as quick as that without a brothel tbh.

I also fear your husband probably did, or got a bj or close and freaked and came home.

so theyve all cheated except him

Yep, they went straight out as soon as they arrived and got on it, met a group of girls pretty quickly! My husband doesn’t drink.
This post isn’t about doubting him, I don’t for a second.

I'm stunned that people think op's dh wouldn't feel guilty unless he cheated too. I would feel incredibly guilty if I was at a bachlorette and everyone was cheating on their partners. I would feel incredibly uncomfortable my friends did this and would struggle to look their's husbands in the eye.
I think is would suck for OP's dh to have to witness such awful behaviour.

I’m not going to post where they went, but it’s somewhere known for big groups of young people getting smashed and shagging. I didn’t think it’s that unheard of to pull quickly, I’ve managed to pull during my first drink before!
I’m leaning towards not saying anything but now I’m taking in the guilt!

When he says all the stags were unfaithful within a few hours of arriving, does he mean they were kissing/intimate with other women, or spoke to other women. Because I'm finding it highly unlikely that they were all unfaithful in that time frame.

Just LADS letting off steam 🤦‍♂️

Tell your husband to stop being a snake. What goes on tour stays on tour.

Kissing, groping, disappearing etc. It’s obvious, he’s not stupid.

I would keep well out if it

Depends. Are the stags his friends, or is the bride yours?
If the women at home are your friends, like proper actual friends, then tell.

If not, I probably would mind my own business. They might even know what goes on when their men go away and who is anyone else to judge.

You can't say anything. As said upthread you'll lose the friendship group whether it's true or not.

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, keep out of it.

Did he tell the other stags that/why he was going home early? Will some of them not have "alerted" their partners?

What will you say to the partners if they ask you why DH has come home early?

I'm stunned that people think op's dh wouldn't feel guilty unless he cheated too.

This. I've been in the OP's husbands position and was furious with the person in question and entirely unwilling to lie for him.

I also fear your husband probably did, or got a bj or close and freaked and came home

What a bizarre leap. He's a bloody moron if he did and this is the story he concocted. Surely people who cheat don't usually draw attention to it?

It happens for sure but I’ve never seen an entire stag party cheating within the space of a few hours. Does sound a bit far fetched.