Back story...
Was with an extremely abusive drug addict ex who dragged me through central London screaming to get an abortion when I was pregnant (after 2 years of dating) he was 25, I was 20.
He promised he would change 🙄 and I naively got back with him by the time my DSon was born I woke up and realised how dangerous he was. When DS was 2 months he threw him on the bed in anger when i refuses to let him take drugs in my mothers house. I ended it when my son was 4 months.
I absolutely tried my hardest to keep a good relationship between son and ex and would meet him three times a week at softplay centres or park etc.
Ex would turn up and spend whole time telling me "Ridiouclous Roumers" he had heard about me and barely even looking at son. When my son was 10 months I was severely depressed due to stalking and took ex to court for an injunction.
Spent a year!! In the courts who said they accepted the injunction but that he had fathers rights and had to see son (which I agreed with) so we arranged to meet at a contact Center. At this point son was 18 months.
I called contact Center week 1 it was meant to start and they said they hadn't heard from ex.
Called again at week 4 - hasn't heard from ex
Week 5 - heard (through mutual friend) ex was on a long term holiday travelling
Week 8 - called contact Center - again not heard from ex. I told them I wouldn't call again and to call me when he set a date to start contact. Never heard from again
Fast forward to today... two years later and have received a letter in the post summoning me to family court on the basis I have been withdrawing contact from ex... my son has just turned 4!! Has no idea who ex is,
I feel exhausted that I have to go through this again and I know this is gonna have a negative effect on son as he doesn't know who ex is and finds new people distressing.
Has anyone been in this situation? I'm due in court next month and am dreading them bringing up fathers rights again when son hasn't seen ex in two and half years!!
He hasn't bothered for this long why should he turn up when he wants and upset my son!!
Sorry for this long post im feeling scared. :/