To hate being sent photos with no message attached?

[shitholiday2018]

I’m not on social media. Deliberately. I love messages and chats and do it a lot to keep in touch, esp with further flung people.

I have several friends who will just send photos, with no message. Constantly. No ‘how are you? We are having a great time here’, no nothing. Sometimes I reply. Sometimes I think ‘I know you’ve put this on Facebook (these people are prolific social media users too), pls don’t use me as a photo wall’. Am I out of touch and grumpy?

I want that dying art - two way communication. I want you to ask about me/my life/my kids as well as constahtly sending me photos of yours. Otherwise it’s juwr Facebook in a different guise? And I hate that way of communicating - look how much fun we are having! Whilst missing out on the fun to take a bloody photo of the (often) fake fun.

Is this the new way of conversing or am I right to object?

A picture is worth a thousand words

Our culture has become a lot more visual in the last few years and people increasingly communicate via photos. Blame instagram.

I love being sent photos personally.

I don't mind photos without comments from family. If my friends (esp. the ones I don't see very often) kept sending me photos with no context, I'd just ignore them to be honest. I mean what do you want me to say when you don't bother explaining what exactly the photos you keep sending me are?

I think that’s it. It’s an extension of the one sided real life conversation. I think that’s why it pisses me off. All photos and no text means you don’t care what I’m doing at all - it’s all about you.

I think that’s it. It’s an extension of the one sided real life conversation. I think that’s why it pisses me off. All photos and no text means you don’t care what I’m doing at all - it’s all about you.

It's particularly odd when people you aren't really that close to keep doing that. Some of these people obviously don't get enough likes or whatever on FB and Instagram and still look for more attention in person.

I would just ignore all those photos. Most people would stop eventually if they are anything close to normal.

It is people I’m close to. I see them a lot. I suppose typing this has made me reflect that our conversations have become a bit one Sided.

I have started ignoring them and replying only to text. Hopefully that will be the equivalent of not ‘liking’ it on social media.

I do think it’s a sad reflection of how we live life - behind a veneer - and i worry for kids who will grow up thinking that’s normal human interaction.

Well why don't you pick up the phone instead of texting back? "Hello! I just saw the photo you sent me, that beach is beautiful, have you been on holiday?"

See it as a conversation starter instead and you might find you feel closer to your friends when you actually respond.

Otherwise they might be sitting at the other end thinking "why does shitholiday never respond to my photos?"

The worst thing is that I’m on holiday with my family. No mention of that. Just photos of other people’s activities. This has been going on ages obviously, not just recently. Hence my query about whether it’s normal now.
If I’m honest, a blank photo with no hello, how are you, no two way conversation opener doesn’t really make me want to pick up the phone. Plus I’m away so wouldn’t be calling anyone anyway. But even if I were home it would work as a conversation stopper for me, not a starter. To me, someone who sends a message with no text isn’t inviting a conversation, they are inviting praise or approval of some sort. I’m tired of it.

Bump

I'd just send a photo of my family back without any texting.

I love that idea, I might actually do it!

I love getting photos. My brother regularly sends me photos if they're out or on holiday. Doesn't bother me in the slightest if there is no message. I like the fact they've thought of me

YANBU. I've never been sent a photo on its own and would find it very weird. One of those things I had no idea people think is normal behaviour till I read a MN thread on it!

I like getting photos, it makes me feel included, so not all about the sender for me . I’m quite visual though, so maybe it is horses for courses.

But have they really thought of you shitglitter if they haven’t even bothered to ask how you are or how your holiday is going? It’s just ‘look at me’, nothing to do with you at all?

Sorry redGlitter!!!! No glitter is shit.

I think it depends what it is - if a friend sends me a pic of her kid doing something cute I think aww! But if it was a pic of someone’s dinner, or their commute - I wouldn’t know what to think!

@shitholiday2018
NO GLITTER IS SHIT! just spat out my very nice Sauvignon!😂

Sparkle what if they never ask about you though? Just photo after photo of them, by way of communication? That’s my beef I think. I have loads of friends who don’t do this of course, and the relationships if I’m honest are much more even.

Sorry just keep rolling! Top that glass up now.