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To take this further?

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CandyCreeper · 01/11/2018 11:46

Yesterday I was in my local supermarket, I was using the self check out when I heard the cashier behind me (she was on the till directly behind me) shout “OI!!” I turned around “your kids just knocked that off” I looked and saw my 4 year old had accidently knocked a sign down that was a piece of paper attached to something, I told him to pick it up and put it back while I finish scanning my shopping, Anyway I noticed he was struggling to do it so I told him to give it to me and I will sort it once I finished scanning. Well as I said that the woman shouted at me “what did you say!!” I repeated over to her that I will do it once I finished my shopping, everyone was staring at this point.
She then demanded that I handed it to her “right now” I said she was rude and she said “well dont come in here again then!”, it all seemed very ott and she was actually shouting at me. I told her I would be calling to make a complaint about her and she said “your child comes in here messing up the sign and you have a cheek to complain about me” I ended up leaving in tears which I know is stupid but it was so humilating. I called the customer helpline and the woman was horrified, she couldnt believe the way I was spoken to over an accident. She said she is going to call the store today to tell them it was unacceptable but I cant help but feel its not enough, her behaviour was so rude I was literally shaking and I dont feel able to return to the shop even though she assured me the woman had no right to tell me not to come in. Should I take it further (If its even possible) or leave it? I doubt I will go back in tbh.

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Lizzie48 · 01/11/2018 13:22

It is an absolute overreaction to be shaking and crying after something like this

That's unfair. It depends on how much stress you have going on in your life, and how it's affecting you generally. Have you never heard of the straw that breaks the camel's back?

Certainly the woman was rude and I would definitely complain to the manager.

ADastardlyThing · 01/11/2018 13:24

Complain in writing. She sounds awful and needs a bit of feedback about how to talk to customers.

I had similar once (DS hopped on to the metal thing on the side of self service tills and I told him to get off straight away which he did but I still got shouted at Hmm), although I did do a comedy look around and said "sorry, who exactly are you talking to?" And got a really humble apology straight afterwards Grin

chocolatemademefat · 01/11/2018 13:53

I had an experience with a bad tempered cashier once and after posting on this site I was told to remember the cashier may have been having a bad day herself!

I think you should contact their head office in writing because the more we put up with this type of behaviour the more we will be treated badly. I believe most people in shops are decent but there’s always the shit ones - as in every profession.

They need your custom and any decent shop manager would want this sorted out. If she’s did it to you who knows how she’s treating other customers. If it’s her shop then vote with your feet and shop elsewhere. 💐

AnonaMouse1 · 01/11/2018 14:00

thing is, they won't reprimand her at all

shop staff rarely get spoken to about complaints....not in any of the retail outlets I've worked in anyway

as a manager myself, if i'm told of this kind of thing i follow it up as a 'training exercise'....but honestly, theres 2 sides to everything and its rarely as black and white as this

i usually look on cctv....theres no sound but actions and body language speak volumes

AnonaMouse1 · 01/11/2018 14:01

dastardly so what was it? shouting or speaking?

CandyCreeper · 01/11/2018 14:05

They will definitely see from the cctv that it happened exactly how I said!

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Soubriquet · 01/11/2018 14:06

Please do complain to the store itself as well as head office

No staff member has the right to shout and berate the customer

Even if you went along smashing all the alcohol bottles they don’t have the right to shout.

They would call the police to detain you instead not deal with you themselves

Maelstrop · 01/11/2018 14:07

By take it further, do you mean get her sacked? I think she needs a bollocking because it was so minor she could have ignored it or politely asked you to put it back. It’s very poor customer service she absolutely shouldn’t have reacted like that, but her company ought to support her to become better. Not sure what you want as a resolution?

Scrumptiousbears · 01/11/2018 14:12

I was always told if you have an issue with something then have in mind a resolution.

So OP if you are not happy with the outcome what would you rather the outcome be?

ADastardlyThing · 01/11/2018 14:16

She shouted, why? Confused

AnonaMouse1 · 01/11/2018 14:41

soubriquet Er yes they can shout in that scenario. Nobody would stand and just watch! I've kicked many a 'customer' out and told them not to come back!

There are other people to consider

AnonaMouse1 · 01/11/2018 14:44

Because you addressed her by asking who she was talking to.... not 'shouting at'

If it had been true shouting then you would address it as such

One persons 'shouting' is another persons 'talking' ....depends which angle you are going in at

ErickBroch · 01/11/2018 14:48

Insanity - if it really happened like that then you should take it further. I worked in CS for years and have never even CONSIDERED reacting like that to someone, really shocking

ADastardlyThing · 01/11/2018 15:13

She shouted but yes I said "talking"

I'm not sure I came out the embarrassed one though judging by her grovelling apology Grin

Piffle11 · 01/11/2018 15:19

I would cry over something like this as I get upset when I'm angry or stressed. I would want to speak with the store manager to make sure the complaint is passed on to them. I had an incident many years ago with a very rude cashier and I always wish I'd taken it further. She was unbelievably horrible.

Willowcat77 · 01/11/2018 15:25

Definitely write a letter of complaint - what an aggressive, rude woman! And no, your reaction was not stupid or abnormal! I also react by crying in stressful 'confrontation' type situations. It's a totally natural reaction, which releases ACTH (stress hormones) from the body.

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