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Aibu to ignore my own house guest?

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MummysBusy · 01/11/2018 10:42

Not literally, but im feeling very 'fuck it' about being a good hostess right now. Sad

House guest over from another country. Unfortunately I've come down with the worst cold (and sinus infection I think) that I've had in years, so has young dd. Guest is quite high maintenance: won't do anything or go anywhere by themself; specific dietary requirements; eats at odd times; finds it difficult to make decisions or express preferences, so you can never be sure if they are actually enjoying themselves. We love this friend, but there is a reason why we only see them for 1 week every two years. I've made it to day 5, but I don't know how to put on a brave face any more. All i want is rest and a cuddle from dp. Dd really shouldn't be leaving the house either. The whole week has been a bit of a washout and i do feel sorry for guest. What do I do?

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CheshireChat · 01/11/2018 13:38

Can you do low effort stuff like going for a coffee or similar?

Also, can your DP entertain them while you and your DD just chill at home?

Hope you feel better soon.

Whereismumhiding2 · 01/11/2018 15:07

Just be honest with your visitor friend. Tell them that You're ill, DD is ill, you can't look after them as need to curl up and sleep.
Then ask them Would they like to arrange to move to a hotel incase you're infectious?... Also explain if they stay they'll need to look after, entertain and cook for themselves & clean up afterwards, or to arrange to go out to eat so that you can rest.

Sometimes these things happen.
I wouldn't expect ill family/friends to run around after me if I was visiting, infact I'd want to help out , do cooking for them and take myself out so they can recover on sofa.

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