to just walk away?

[TheSunflower]

I've been chatting with a guy for ten years. Younger than me. For ten years, it wasn't a constant chatting, more of chatting from time to time since we lived in different countries. There was a bit of harmless flirting from time to time, but with me just deflecting it and making jokes. Five years later, we lived in the same country but different cities.

Last month, I was in in the same city and met up with him. Had a fun time. No flirting, just friends having fun.

Anyway, I came home from my holiday. Chat's the same, flirting every now and then, but nothing serious. Guy told me he likes me and I kinda like him too. So I told him I like you too. But of course since we're living in different cities, I didn't think anything of it.

However, this guy is becoming quite full on, and honestly it was starting to turn me off. Too much drama. So I started chatting with him less, as the fun has gone away and it's always how he likes me, how this song is his song for me, etc.

Last weekend, I was really not in the mood for chatting, and I was busy. Guy is saying I should stop bitching around. When I asked him what that means, he said, bitching around meaning going out with other guys. He said, I like him but I keep bitching around with other guys. I was very surprised, because we are not together.

So I know it's ten years of friendship, but this is now scary right?

Do you want to be with him, be just a friend or have nothing more to do with him? Decide and then tell him do he knows where he stands. Good luck.

I assume you have never had any sort of relationship with him op? Just a friendship.....if so that is very weird. and l would block him totally.

I assume you have never had any sort of relationship with him op?

None. Just us telling each other we like each other.

Do you want to be with him, be just a friend or have nothing more to do with him?

Well, I didn't know since I met him only once (well twice, since it was for two days) but now I feel kinda creeped out. We've been chat friends for ten years though so there's that.

I would tell him soundly to FUCK OFF and then I would block him permanently.

He thinks now you’ve met you’ve been building up to sex. So he’s giving you all that spiel.

It was a vague long term flirty bit of distraction for both of you and now he’s wondering if he can get his end away.

If you want to, great, if not, be straight with him and block him if he refuses to get the message.

Sounds quite presumptuous of him and I also wonder if he has been living in a monestery whilst you were 'bitching around'... What a vile phrase.

I’m not really clear on how you met him in the first place ?

I’m not really clear on how you met him in the first place?

I actually am not sure, but he said it was through hi5. Maybe Myspace. It was ten years ago.

What a vile phrase

Yeah, I didn't like it. I mean, first, even if I go out with other guys, so what? And second, the term sounds very offensive.

To put it into song OP, you can either Walk Away (Cast) or

I suggest the latter.

Run To The Hills

Thanks. He's really creeping me out by all these unnecessary irrational possessiveness.

It's clear that the friendship cannot continue anymore. Tell him openly you are not interested and ask him to stop contacting you. Forget the 10 years of texting and whatever. Time to move on.

So you never met before until recently, it was just an online chatting thing ?

So you never met before until recently, it was just an online chatting thing?

Yes.

Well in that case I think you need to say to him clearly that you only see your relationship as a casual online freidndship and are not looking for anything more, sorry if he got the wrong impression.

Friendship

Block, block, blockerty block!! What a horrible expression for one, secondly you owe him sweet FA! At least you found out his true nasty colours before things possibly progressed further.

Oh, he also said it's "UNBELIEVABLE" that I am bitching around when I already told him I like him.