So I recently found out I'm 8 weeks pregnant and I'm 3 weeks before a good friends wedding. I'm actually a bridesmaid but she knew I was trying for a baby and I will probably end up having to back out. She has bought our dresses fairly cheaply and we have bought our own shoes etc. I will of course pay her for my dress.
Anyway what I want to know is Aibu to not tell her I am pregnant until I've had a scan to check all is okay? I've had previous losses and am very anxious about this pregnancy. She wasn't the most understanding last time and asked me not to try again until after her wedding (I explained that I wouldn't be doing this and she knew when she asked me to be BM that I could fall pregnant before the wedding). I haven't had a formal invite etc yet and I know she hasn't done the guest list so I am not affecting numbers at this point. I know she has prebooked for 60 guests and she is struggling to whittle her list down. I will tell her before she sends out her invites so she is aware I may not make it to the wedding. Or will I be okay after 3 weeks to go to it? I've never had a baby so don't know what to expect in terms of things like this!!!! Any advice would be fab :-)