To feel sad?

[Thisisit777]

In a nut shell, was bullied out of a team by one person. More superior to me. Got on great with the others in the team though didn’t keep in touch - to let the dust settle (for me mostly - was traumatic).

In a new team. All well. Loving it.

Met old team at a shared event - they ALL blanked me. Or shirted past. I can only imagine what bully painted me as. Feel crap. I didn’t ever retaliate with nastiness. Not now not then.

Felt awkward through the shared event.

And now I just feel sad and teary. AIBU?

Maybe am.

I hate being misunderstood. Or maligned - when they don’t have a bloody clue about the half of it.

Sigh.

Might they just have been a bit embarrassed and not know how to talk to you, rather than actively disliking you? If the bully was present too then they may have felt they couldn't be seen to be friendly with you in case they got picked on next.

Yanbu to be upset.

But fuck em.

Bully not even there today.

I think I’m just disappointed.

That people cant think for themselves.

Wish I was tougher. However, I’m not.

I didn’t look at all phased - but I felt it.

2 years ago I was sacked after I put in a formal complaint about my manager bullying me.

I knew I would get fiered when I did it but I didn't expect to be ghosted by everyone who saw what happened and said they would support me. People I trusted have completely blanked me since.

It still bloody hurts.

I've put it down to them not wanting to get caught up in it and being scared people will tell said manager if they see us tallking. I know there were repercussions from my complaint and my actions would not have improved the already toxic atmosphere. I got out but those people still have to work there. So I guess, I just put it down to self preservation.

But yes, the first time it happened it made me cry. And possibly the second, and third... Now I just try to look approachable but otherwise leave them to it.

Gulp. Very similar Ruthie. I’m really sorry you had to experience that.

Bullying does bring suffering doesn’t it. Not always from just that persOn, but the after-ripples experiences like these...