To have wanted to shake this parent

[lastqueenofscotland]

Making polite conversation with a friends sister while we were both waiting for said friend, over a drink yesterday evening and she was talking about her DDs university application.
She for context (relevant) is very wealthy, brags about the very expensive private sixthform her daughter goes to and how she is paying £40 an hour for her daughter to see a tutor several times a week.
She starting moaning about how desperatly unfair it was that her DD can’t apply for oxbridge as she’s predicted AAB, yet children from deprived backgrounds (she used far more offensive terms than this) would be considered with these grades and there are summer programmes open to them that aren’t to her daughter.
She completely didn’t get my point that that her daughter has had her “advantage” with going to an excellent school with tiny class sizes not to mention her tutor!
She went on to say that people from deprived backgrounds were entitled if they thought they could “cheat the system.”
Aibu to think she is the bloody entitled one?!
I was shocked

Yea she is entitled. Your right that her daughter has had the advantage of £40 an hour tutors, considering some children from 'deprived backgrounds' barely have £40 for the weeks food shop.

Without private school and tutoring she might have been predicted lower grades than AAB, so likely wouldn't have the grades to apply and access summer programmes anyway. A deprived child predicted those grades would be smarter and more driven than her.

I did want to point that out Cach but felt it was unnecessarily mean to her DD

I tutored an 18-year old girl last year who attended a private school and wanted to improve her grades. She was a spoilt snowflake brat and her mother was a poisonous snob. I found that even with well-organised teaching from her school and my input (I’ve had 18 years’ teaching experience including 5 years as HOD), her work in the two subjects I was tutoring remained at A2 Grade C. She simply wasn’t intellectually capable of more than this. The mother could not accept her precious daughter’s limitations, and was obsessed with her daughter getting into a RG uni so that she was ‘among her own kind’. Once I realised what her grades would be, I discontinued tutoring her. Too many parents think that they can buy results for their children, ignoring the limitations of the child.

She maybe doesn't realise those "deprived" children are probably much more intelligent than her daughter to start off with.

Why does she think the lower grade students would be considered? That doesn’t happen in my experience.
Also the tutoring could be said to give an unfair advantage yet she doesn’t see that?

Tutoring can be a nightmare, I had a weak GCSE pupil who her parents insisted she stay in Set 1, they knew the Head(!), and they had a tutor so her homework was excellent, naturally but she clearly didn't understand what she's written (copied down) . Her parents placed all the blame on me,, when I queried the standard of her Coursework they went to the Head and I was told to accept it at face value. She failed of course, had she done the Intermediate or Foundation paper she might have got a D but she had to be entered for the Higher, waste of money.