to tell you about a day in my life

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This was my day, a typical one. Life with no family or friends.
Get up, have an instant soup and bread for breakfast.
Potter around filling time.
Go back to bed early afternoon, no lunch.
Get up, drag myself out to buy my ready meals for the week - 4 for £20. Treat myself to a small cake. One of the items doesn't scan so I have my weekly chat with another adult whilst she sorts it out. Go to the car, have a bonus chat with a lovely woman who offers to take the trolley back for me.
Get home, see the pumpkins out so lock the door quick and turn all lights off at the front as I didn't realise it was halloween.
put the stuff in the fridge.
Microwave a ready meal.
Sit down.
Wonder how long it is until bed time.
Ready meal still in the microwave because I don't fancy anything to eat.

Thanks you for sharing. I understand the loneliness really well.

How would you like your day to be like ?

Are you retired? Can you not fill your day by working / volunteering? Can you meet people in a social group / club? Do you not watch TV? Your day sounds very tough but I am an extrovert and would struggle with so little interaction. Not sure if you want advice or sympathy or just to chat to meet some other people online. But if you are not happy with the day you described, how come you are accepting that as your life? Why do you not feel able to change it?

Is this through choice? I feel you have lots of free time, why don't you cook yourself lovely food from scratch? Why don't you want to welcome guisers at Halloween? Your day sounds miserable, but like you have chosen misery, the instant soup for example.

Personally, I'd get a dog - great company, regular exercise and you soon start chatting to fellow dog walkers once you have a regular routine.

That sounds miserable, poor you .

Would you say you are depressed?

Loneliness is soul destroying and I think once you are there is can be hard to get yourself out of it.

Could you volunteer,? Find a club that interests you or join a social group? Visit the library regularly? Get an allotment?

Why is this your life? Can you change anything?

Should have said, I have a long term chronic illness so don't get out except to food shop.

How old are you, sweetie? Can you knit, sew, paint? Is your eyesight ok for reading?

But surely there’s at least one thing you can change? Just a small step to break the monotony? I think setting yourself even the tiniest goals can reap huge rewards. Sounds like your life is tough but you can’t see the wood for the trees?

Are you ill? Why don’t you work?

Just wanted to say well done for managing as well as you do while living with a chronic illness. Obviously I don't know the ins and outs but if you find just getting up everyday a struggle and you do it anyway or do it most days then you deserve a prize!

What part of the world are you in? Maybe a Mumsneter lives near you? If you're anywhere near Glasgow I'd be happy to get a coffee or something.