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AIBU?

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Partner going mad

22 replies

Bazz90 · 31/10/2018 15:46

For the last month my partner has had an appointment for tomorrow and had the day booked of work. I had said to my kids they can have a friend for a sleepover tonight. The solicitor phoned him today to cancel the appointment so now he has to work tomorrow. He now wants me to send the kids friends home and cancel the sleepover because he has to get up at 6.30. Aibu to tell him one sleepover wont kill him and if he doesnt like it stay elsewhere? Hes being very cheeky about it saying ive had enough if they stay

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 31/10/2018 15:48

Tell him no way!!! Who decided he was the most important person in the house???

gamerchick · 31/10/2018 15:56

You can't cancel, the kids will be looking forward to it.

Tell him to wear earplugs or maybe go to a hotel for the night if he's not happy.

Honestly, what is it with these people who want the entire household to pander to their whims?

Pashazade · 31/10/2018 15:57

Nope don't spoil the kids fun. He'll just have to cope!! Honestly that's so mean spirited.

HollowTalk · 31/10/2018 15:57

I can see why he doesn't want a sleepover if he's up early for work the next day, can't you?

MysweetAudrina · 31/10/2018 16:03

I just allowed my 2 to invite 3 of their friends over for a sleepover and they will all full of Halloween sugar. I am off work tomorrow and my dh is up at 7 for work. It never crossed my mind that he would have an issue with it.

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Bazz90 · 31/10/2018 16:16

Yes i can see the problem but its not my fault or the kids that the appointment was cancelled. I get up at the same time as him. Like hes only 23 and getting on like hes 60! He will be sleeping by 10pm

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TooTrueToBeGood · 31/10/2018 16:20

He sounds like a nasty arse to be blunt. He's threatening to leave you if he doesn't get his way, he cares more about one night of sleep than he does about the kids happiness. Frankly, I'd be asking yourself why you would want to build a future with such a miserable, self-centred individual.

nellieellie · 31/10/2018 16:23

Well, it’s a bit of a pain, but hardly the end of the world. Is he normally so inflexible?

Shinesweetfreedom · 31/10/2018 16:52

He is not their father is he.
He should go.

TheViceOfReason · 31/10/2018 16:55

He's making you choose between him and kids and put him first.

See this for what it is OP.

Compromise - you'll tell the kids to keep it down etc (how old are they???) but you aren't going to cancel their arrangement because his have changed.

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Bazz90 · 31/10/2018 20:11

No he is not their father.. update... while i was out he came home, got his stuff and left and i havnt heard anything from him

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bastardkitty · 31/10/2018 20:14

Oh - what a charmer. That's made things nice and straightforward. How do you feel about his disappearing act?

Celebelly · 31/10/2018 20:16

Oh well. Hope your kids have a lovely evening!

Cuckooclocks · 31/10/2018 20:18

Immature. Yawn. Bye dude.

Returnofthesmileybar · 31/10/2018 20:18

Sounds like you are better off now the fun sponge has left the building!

Does he actually live with you?

OhEctoplasmOnIt · 31/10/2018 20:19

Eeeek I knew he wouldn't be the dad, acting like that, he sounds so immature and needs to get a grip! Well done for not backing down.

Maelstrop · 31/10/2018 20:20

How long has he lived with you?

shaftedbythesystem · 31/10/2018 20:21

Please don't try and call him. What a twat!

AnneProtheroe · 31/10/2018 20:22

Hope you're OK. xx

MrsTommyBanks · 31/10/2018 20:31

He has done you a favour. Shown his true colours fucking off.

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Bazz90 · 31/10/2018 20:34

Thanks for all your messages.. im hurt he didnt try and work things out with me but i feel like i was just used.. i could honestly break down right now 😭 we lived together for 2 years

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DeadButDelicious · 31/10/2018 20:38

Sounds like you could be dodging a bullet here. Tell him not to let the door hit him on the arse on his way out.

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