Younger man or older man?

[SheBangsit]

Sorry, posting for traffic. But no doubt I'll be told I'm BU anyway!

All things being equal in terms of attraction would you pursue a relationship with

A 42 year old who doesn't have kids yet
A 55 year old whose children are grown

if you have kids and don't want any more?

[MenstruatorExtraordinaire]

I've only ever been out with guys the same age as me (within a year or 2) so I would go for the 41 year old.

[SheBangsit]

Ex was 3 years younger and he was a gobsheen who beat me up, so older is more appealing. I think older guy accepts me as I am, whereas I feel (myself) that I have to act around younger guy. I try to be myself, but I can't really reveal the true extent of my madness. I've been in contact with both a lot on Whatsapp but it seems more superficial with younger guy. Being polite. Older guy I can rant about my problems.

[RickOShay]

Definitely the older man then. You need to feel relaxed. As long as you fancy him it’s all good
Sorry about your ex.

[Yutes]

Neither

[SheBangsit]

Jesus, why neither? I like both!

[DiscoDown]

The one you can be yourself around. I was chatting online with 3, but the one I'm dating (it's early days still, mind!) is the one I feel most myself around. I have an offbeat sense of humour and he gets it.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Yeah - that was weird advice.
Maybe Yutes just hates all men?

From your update, I would still go on another date with each of them and see how they go.
I think in your gut you prefer the older guy.
I must say, I'm 50 and having dated a few older guys, I just won't go over 53.
Anyone older than that has just been..... well... old.
Believe me, I have tried.
But I am a young 50 and completely bonkers!

[DonDrapersOldFashioned]

Whichever I liked the most and clicked with best. Age gap wise, I’m not bothered.

[southnownorth]

Which either one I fancied the most, age gap no issue to me. There is 10 years between me and DH.

[Osirus]

If the younger man wants kids and you don’t you have no choice. Older man it is!