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DS age 4 and the pants rule

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CocoLoco87 · 31/10/2018 13:17

More of a WWYD. We are away on holiday and DS came out of a soft play area and said an older girl tried to pull his pants down. Then another older girl did pull them down. He didn't come and tell us straight away and by the time he did, he said the girls had left. We did a circuit of the restaurant/bar we were in and he couldn't see them. I'm so upset! He's not long turned 4 and we've never really discussed his privates being private because there hasn't really been the need yet. I would have confronted the girls parents if I'd known who they were and probably lost my rag. How on earth can you protect your children and what do you tell them to do in such circumstances? I've said he has to come and tell us immediately next time, and he's allowed to push them away if it happens again. Inside I'm absolutely bloody livid but trying to stay calm and not over react.

We were sat right next to the soft play but can't see all of it. It's not large enough for adults to follow their children in and tbh he'd been having a great time yesterday in there making friends etc. I'm just venting really and seeing if anyone else has experience of this and how you dealt with it.

Thanks for reading!

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siakcaci · 31/10/2018 13:18

An older girl?

WellLetsSayHesSquare · 31/10/2018 15:36

I'd say it definitely depends on the age of the older girl. My ds at 4 was so proud of his new Batman pants he tried to show them to everyone.

If they are both around age 4 I wouldnt think of anything untoward but would have the conversation with him about keeping things private and coming to tell you if anyone asks him about such things.

Sirzy · 31/10/2018 15:43

I think teaching “if someone tries to touch you or pull your pants down then scream” is possibly a good start as if nothing else it will draw attention and shock the other party!

CocoLoco87 · 31/10/2018 15:55

Sorry, by older girl I mean 6 or 7. So still a child, but old enough to know not to do that (I think?)

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