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Uni reunion...

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wtf2015 · 31/10/2018 08:56

So I have 20 year university reunion coming up.... been looking forward to it for months. Trouble is, since then I've had a very acrimonious breakup with someone that will be there and I haven't seen him since. Aibu not to go? Emotionally I'm still fragile but don't want to miss out. 😩

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19lottie82 · 31/10/2018 08:57

How long ago was the break up?

KC225 · 31/10/2018 09:02

Need to know how long ago was the break up? How do you he is definitely going? I have never been to any school/university reunion

MaryJenson · 31/10/2018 09:04

Depends on how many are going.

6 could be awkward, 20 fine

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wtf2015 · 31/10/2018 09:35

100 going.... we had a very intense fling for a few months over the summer and ended 3 weeks ago. Ended by hideous text and email exchanges. We were both in a bad place, but turned out he was seeing other people as well for the last 4-6 weeks. Haven't seen him for a month.

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MaryJenson · 31/10/2018 09:37

Go!!
Do not let him influence your life any further.

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wtf2015 · 31/10/2018 10:02

I know that's what I should be doing but I haven't moved on.... I've been getting better as had no contact for the last 10 days, then he replied to an email saying he was going and there was no issue. Ok for him but I'm still a mess.

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MaryJenson · 31/10/2018 11:07

Can you go with a group?

HostessTrolley · 31/10/2018 11:10

Can you take a friend?

19lottie82 · 31/10/2018 11:19

I wouldn’t go. Especially if there’s going to be alcohol involved.

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wtf2015 · 31/10/2018 11:40

Meeting a friend before and going with her.... so won't be alone. Either way I am going to make the wrong decision 🙄

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Sparklesocks · 31/10/2018 11:54

ultimately only you can make this decision, we can’t decide for you.

However I think you should go. It would be a shame to miss out on seeing your old uni friends because of him. You’ll be letting him dictate your life and miss out on things because of him. Also, with 100 people there you won’t have to talk to him.

Additionally it’s a great excuse to make yourself look gorgeous, walk in confidently and show him how unbothered you are.

If you haven’t already you should probably block him on email/phone/social media if him contacting you sets you back.

Hillarious · 31/10/2018 12:10

Additionally it’s a great excuse to make yourself look gorgeous, walk in confidently and show him how unbothered you are.

This - and it doesn't matter how crap you might feel on the inside. No-one can see that! Go for it!

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