Sat here doing some naval gazing...
I have a good life. Mid 30's, decent job, own my own place in the centre of a city that I absolutely love, great friends, social life is now booked up til mid December. I'm happy with how I look, seem to have accidently developed a sense of style, living the single dream (all of what I've written would have seemed impossible 3 years ago). On the whole I think I'm a decent person.
But.... just had a not very long, and not very serious, relationship end (not by me, but for incompatibility reasons that were probably valid). Confidence / life / everything has now become very shaky. Why the duck is my self esteem so intrinsically linked to what a man thinks of me? I ask this quite genuinely as I think I can weather most things, but male rejection - boom - feeling like a failure. Is it human wiring or social conditioning? Or just me?