To feel broody so soon after having my baby

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DS is 5 months old and so loved, very much wanted and cherished after 7 years of not expecting to have any more DC after my DD was born nearly 8 years ago.

I’m thoroughly enjoying the baby years again, and love being a mum and being maternal. I know it sounds silly but I honestly feel depressed at the thought of not having any more children, and never holding another baby after this again. My DC add so much to my life after a really crappy few years of serious illness and loss in the family. I’m even feeling (irrationally) envious of those friends who are announcing pregnancies for the first time. This does make me feel very guilty, as I know how incredibly lucky I am to have two amazing DC.

I feel quite pathetic thinking these things. We couldn’t afford another DC, my DH is getting to the ‘too old for any more’ stage, and I know I should be grateful and happy with what I have already (which I really and truly am).

Why am I feeling like this though?! AIBU to feel so broody so soon after having my DS?

I remember this feeling. It goes Wa when he terrible twos kick in 🤣

GOEs away*

I hope so! I’m sure it is just a passing phase! Maybe I am just designed to have children and that is my calling!

I know how you feel. I think being a mummy and loving people is the thing that I'm good at. Unfortunately I won't be having anymore (only cos I'm single now) which is a bit of a shame cos I've got so much love to give.

I’m sure if someone handed me a newborn and made my son aged 3, I would quickly change my mind..! 😂

Have one more op!! You sound like you have so much love to give. You sound like an amazing mum.

I have one dc, ttc unsuccessfully for 6 years. That relationship has ended now. I wish I could meet someone amazing and have at least 2 more!!

I'm 38 and doubt I can conceive now anyway even if I hadn't struggled to conceive beforehand.

Aww, thank you *Forgotmycoat! That is so sweet of you to say!

Sadly, my DH quite adamant we can’t afford any more! I am honestly going to try and ‘get over’ my desire for another by channeling my life and love into my two DC, but I will always be wistful of their baby days and secretly thrilled if I ended up pregnant once more! Not sure my DH would agree - he would probably be completely bald and totally grey! Ha ha!

I was broody around the 6 month mark - post birth (both times) ... I think it is hormonal. After a couple weeks of intense desire for another newborn 👶🏻, it faded and now I'm super content with our little clan!

I had this too when my DD was about 9mo, as the baby months were slipping away. Probably because I knew she would be an only (practical / financial / age factors).

But because she did not sleep through until she was 3, I was more than happy not to have a another baby

I got this, that age was so lovely, so we started TTC again when eldest was 6 months. Had DD2 when eldest was 17 months.

It was intense. Didn't get broody again until the youngest was four . And had no trouble resisting the hormonal urge that time.

Your hormones are playing with you. If course babies are amazing and adorable, but if your husband doesn't want any more, you need to respect that. Be eternally grateful for what you already have.

I can't identify with this at this age as I found the baby stage utterly horrendous, but I do feel really sad that I'll never have another 2 yr old, 3 yr old, 4yr old etc. (And I'd gladly have another if they arrived aged 2). Try and focus on how much you can enjoy your current DC, another baby would mean less time to enjoy their gorgeousness.

I have a theory that when you get broody so soon after giving birth it's your bodies way of telling you that you're ready to grow a human again, like an evolutionary thing from years ago when People had loads of babies

I had this SO badly!

Talked about another baby with my DH and the next day I took a pregnancy test... I was already pregnant!
(It was a good job we discussed it the day before and he said he wanted another one too!)

I've been broody since my little boy was born 11 weeks ago. I did initially back track and say I only wanted 2 but I'm back to wanting 4 now but I'm 31 now and would like a gap between each of them we probably won't make it to 4. I'm already planning no2 though! OH doesn't really have a choice 😂

My dd is 4mths and number 2 is already planned as biological clock is ticking loudly (36yo). If I'd found my OH sooner I probably would have had 4. I can see why people have baby after baby, don't agree with it but this stage is lovely.

We have a 1 year old and are trying for another baby. It did take a long time to have the first though and I’m late 30s so another might not happen. If that’s the case I plan to wait until she’s 2-3 then foster babies. We already have 2 older foster children so am already ‘approved.’ I can’t imagine not holding a baby again!

Just after DS3 was born (he is 5 months old now) a student midwife asked me if I'd like anymore children. DH and I immediately yes, probably one more and she said that if I felt like that less then a week after giving birth then I must really mean it 😂 I still feel the same now, although maybe less keen when sleep deprived!

I thought everyone get this !!??? I know my friend did and had 4 kids in 4 years ..... The 4 year old started school.... Reading books, homework, activities after school..... She stopped !!! Babies are wonderful and easy...children are hard work !!!