To buy a new phone for dd(15) that i dont trust...please opinions

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im currently trying to decide if i should buy DD(15) one of them new iphones. shes been begging me for some time now and has even gotten her grades up for it. But, i really dont trust her, shes lied to me a lot in the past and goes out when shes not supossed to, ive taken her laptop away in the past because she would go on things shes not allowed to, and overall she can be quite a troublemaker, behaviour has improved, but still she is messing up.(not going to go into context). I think you get the message. im currently at 50 50 chance of buying it for her, what would you guys say? AIBU(doubt it). btw i did not make any promises to her.

Reconditioned one for Christmas?

buy it you ABVVU

Has she already got a perfectly useable phone?
If yes then I wouldnt be buying her a new one unless she deserved it which it doesnt sound like she does. If she starts behaving and rebuilding the trust you can get her one for her birthday.

Her behaviour won't change if she can cause trouble or "mess up" and still get what she wants.

They are pretty expensive new, aren't they? Big investment to make if she hasn't earned your trust and there are lots of way cheaper options than a new iPhone if her current phone is truly not fit for purpose.

Absolutely not. If she has a phone that is functional and she wants an upgrade, she is old enough to start saving for one. Maybe agree that you will meet 50:50 with the cost? But there's no way I'd be forking out that sort of money for a phone for any 15 year old, much less one who has been behaving poorly.

Have you already promised or? Did you say get your grades up and I'll get you one, if so you'd be unreasonable to go back on your promise. Otherwise a reconditioned one is perfectly acceptable with conditions about you monitoring it, bars on access to certain things and if she misbehaves it will be taken back.

For me it depends on what you said to her. If you said to her that if she gets her grades up then you'll get her one but if you said that you'll think about it, I wouldn't.