Bit down about deaths

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I am in my late 50's and just tired of people I know dying. Just in last week a close relative and a distant friend have died. I know this is what happens when you get older, but it makes me not want to get any older. My uncle who had lots of friends and lived to an old age seemed to spend most of his later years going to funerals.

Sadly, death is part of the circle of life and there are times when there seem to more funerals than usual. We had an 18 months period when several elderly aunts / uncles died. DP and I are now at the top of the family tree....

But, it's made us certain that we are going to enjoy the years of life left to us, no matter how many or how few it is.

I know it is part of life. Yes the generation above dying seems natural, but I have also had a number of friends and acquaintances about my age die.
Totally agree with enjoying life while we can though.

I totally understand how you feel.

A friend of mine had both her sisters die on the same day and I had to support her through a double funeral.

I have another funeral to attend on Saturday.

My aunt has just been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and gets more results tomorrow.

My friends husband has liver and bowel cancer and probably won’t see Christmas.

It’s very awful and very sad.

I am beginning to enter this phase although, for me, to date it is mainly the generation above me (aunts, friend's' parents) rather than my generation. I do notice though that, whenever I meet up with friends, the first part of a conversation is taken up with catching up on various friends & relatives illnesses & ailments when just a few years ago it was baby news and before that weddings and before that dates. I definitely preferred those stages!

I have had two friends my age die of cancer, 1 work colleague and my brother. As well as various relatives on both sides of the family die in the older generation. I guess I thought I would be older before I had to deal with people my age dying.

I see what you mean about people your own age dying - suppose it makes you think about how precious life can be!

I'm younger than you (early thirties) and thankfully haven't experienced anyone of my age dying but have experienced quite a few (relations/friends/acquaintances) dying 'before their time' as it were.

My uncle and grandad both died at just 49 - both from cancer.

A friend of ours at 60 and an acquaintance at 56 - again both from cancer.

It's quite scary when you think about it.