AIBU to be believe things don't have to end with cheating -handhold needed

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So today I join the ranks of the cheatees (?) For the second time.

I got the screenshots that my long term boyfriend tried to ask a younger woman out. Lucky for her she declined

He had the usual excuses of course

1. She's lying ( I have the screenshots)

1. Her friend made it look like my BF number ( it clearly shows his number)

1. He was asking her out as a friend ( why ask if she was single...)

1. He does stupid things... ( Blah blah minimise minimise)

Things haven't been great for a while so this is definitely the end for me. I'm over the Peter Pan phase!

After him knowing the way my ex husband cheated and humiliated me and after 4 years it stings like hell.

Please cheer me with stories of amazing men with backbones and kickass women who enjoy great sex and living by themselves.

Thanks to mumsnet over the past years I e realised I do deserve better and that I don't have to be left with the ' it didn't mean anything - because she turned me down' males out there

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Anyone?

I didn't want to read and run.
I know there's cliches but it's always better to have some time for you than waste time on a dickhead.
At least you've seen his true colours now.

I'm glad you made the decision to end it, many try again but I do think once the trust is gone, so should you be.
There's some good blokes out there, there's a lot of arseholes too. Sorry you've encountered this one.

Thank you MsHopey

Absolutely you are better off without him and his excuses. Spend time being single and enjoy it. Sorry this has happened though, unfortunately I'm losing hope of finding a man like you are hoping exists.

What an idiot.
There are definitely good men out there!

Ugh, he sounds like an utter arsehole.
Sack him off... there's much nicer men out there!

And even if there wasn't, you don't have to put up with that shit, you'd be happier in your own fab company.

Men like that do my ducking head in.

You will be much happier without a cheating arse be kind to you right now.

What gets me is the' having to line the next one up'

If your not happy your not happy. We don't have any ties, don't live together.

But no still wanted to try and cheat!

I’m really sorry OP, it’s such a nasty feeling.
But the truth of course is that you should have a partner who is loyal to you, who is honest, has integrity and respects you enough to tell you the truth when you confront him. This man wasn’t that person. Now you know, you can walk away. Imagine if you had found out years and years down the line and wasted more time with him.
Think of this as an opportunity to start over. Get a lovely new haircut. Book a pampering spa treatment. Go out with your friends and have fun. Take up a hobby that you’ve always thought about. Book a holiday to a place you’ve always wanted to visit. Do all the things he didn’t like.

Reconnect with some old friends if you can. Also, planning something to do by yourself or with friends will give you something to focus on and enjoy. Are you in a position to go on a lovely holiday or try an activity you've always fancied? Decorate a room in your home to your own taste? Write something or create a piece of art?

I stayed in an awful marriage for 7 years.

Leaving was the best thing I ever did! I sorted myself out, saved up, bought a new house and car.....

Four years later I met the most amazing man ever. He’s intelligent, handsome, funnny, incredibly caring and the best thing that ever happened to me!

Being with him has made me realise just how wrong my ex’s were. However my journey to meet him has made me appreciate just how lucky I am to have a soulmate.

There was a thread "just added myself to dh and ow chat" a few weeks ago, she booted him straight out. Very strong woman who stood up for herself with no hesitation.

I think I just wanna breathe for a while.

Like so many of us I've gave and gave and gave and in all honesty it has made me resentful.

I made so many adjustments due to his anxieties ( certain restaurants, didn't travel abroad) I am not critising I have MH issues myself.

He was very much man who said ' love is all you need' but when activities are so restricted due to his anxieties and not wanting to spend money. Things get very tiring.

Is it bad to just wanna be selfish for a while?

Valuing yourself, your needs, and your wants isn't selfish.

You be selfish!

Thank god you don't live with him, or have any ties. Makes getting rid of him so much easier!