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2 bloody hours...

33 replies

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 22:39

Of listening to DH snoring whilst sleeping on the sofa, so loud I can’t hear the TV.
I’ve poked him and banged doors but it was ‘too early to go to bed’.

This is some ridiculous rule his parents had of never EVER going to bed early, they spent every evening sleeping on the sofa for hours. Then they would get up around midnight and piss about for an hour or two.

My MIL thought I was ‘abnormal’ for going to bed at a reasonable hour.
Now I can’t get DH to break this habit. He’s nearly 50 FFS.

Anyway now I can watch Scream 3 in peace! I can hear the screaming properly.

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AiryFairyUnicornRainbow · 28/10/2018 22:45

What is the problem with snoozing on your own sofa, in your own house?

I hate being woke up intentionally for no reason - you wanted to wake him to suit your own agenda. I don't get that. I would level my partner if they behaved like a spoilt brat

CiderBrains · 28/10/2018 22:47

Erm I think the loud snoring is the OPs gripe here 🙄

Yanbu. Loud snoring whilst I am watching tv would drive me nuts, especially as it's in the living room!

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 22:49

@airy absolutely no reason not to go to bed. Why not go to bed and sleep properly rather than being on the sofa with me throwing socks at his head

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Ni58 · 28/10/2018 22:50

My OH does this. Snores louder than the telly. I gently rouse him to suggest he goes to bed and he tells me his comfy, doesn’t want to go to bed yet, yada yada.
So then, when I finish watching my programme I leave him be and come up to bed. When he finally wakes, he tells me I’ve done the wrong thing, should’ve insisted he go to bed, etc and so on.
Can’t win Confused

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 22:53

DH has been known to end up on the sofa until 3-4am when he wakes up freezing and sore and is then grumpy about ‘crap nights sleep’ JUST GO TO BED

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ErrolTheDragon · 28/10/2018 22:54

YANBU. If he's tired enough to be snoring, he should go to bed.

Snoring is annoying for everyone except the snorer, and should be restricted to one's own bed.

Unless it's my dog, who somehow manages to snore while he's awake without winding everyone up. I don't suppose the OPs DH is cute enough to pull off this trick.

JosellaPlayton · 28/10/2018 22:54

If the snoring is genuinely that loud then I’d wake him up every single time he starts snoring until he is either fully awake or until he gets so annoyed he finally goes to bed. But if he wasn’t stopping you from watching the TV then I’d let him crack on, it may be a bit unusual but he’s an adult and if he wants to snooze on the sofa rather than in bed then he should be allowed to- if he isn’t disturbing anyone else that is!!

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 22:56

Not just snoring but SNORING! With all the funny noises.

I like the cat snoring...

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Merryoldgoat · 28/10/2018 22:56

What side is Scream 3 on?

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 22:57

W HD (109 on sky)

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JellieEllie · 28/10/2018 22:58

Currently sat with Big Brother turned up to volume 45 (extremely loud on our tv) because partner laid next to me snoring his head off like a warthog.
It doesn't matter how many times I accidentally nudge him, cough loudly or rustle a crisp packet next to his ear, he won't go to bed for the same reason, because it's too early.
I could escape to bed myself and watch in peace but he would only follow me within 5 minutes of realising I'm not next to him and I would be back to square one.
I feel your pain.

Singlenotsingle · 28/10/2018 22:59

Isn't there a TV in your bedroom? Just sneak off upstairs where it's warmer and comfier anyway, and leave him to it!

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 23:00

He’s gone now. DC had only gone to bed so don’t like to watch upstairs until they are fully asleep.

Solidarity @jellie

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incywincybitofa · 28/10/2018 23:06

If he's going to carry on maybe get his tonsils and adenoids removed can make a huge difference to the snoring.

Merryoldgoat · 28/10/2018 23:14

Thank you!

I’m the snorer in our relationship - I thank my lucky stars my DH can sleep through it. Am getting referred to sleep apnoea clinic which will hopefully help - would that help your DH?

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 23:16

He only really snores sitting up - like on the sofa. In bed he’s fine.

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Haffiana · 28/10/2018 23:24

Why don't you listen to some really nice music, OP? Some death metal for example, played as loud as possible?

Frenchmom · 28/10/2018 23:28

Catspyjamazzzz
I think we share a husband!
Won’t go to bed, then comes up to bed at about 4am and wakes me up!

Catspyjamazzzz · 28/10/2018 23:28

Although an amazing idea, DH himself can sleep through ANYTHING. He can also sleep anywhere at a moments notice, it’s really frigging annoying.

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Coolaschmoola · 28/10/2018 23:32

@JellieEllie Please say you live in a detached house!

Otherwise I feel sorry for your neighbours having to put up with snoring AND your very loud tv.

I find a swift elbow shuts DH up for a while!

IncyWincyGrownUp · 28/10/2018 23:34

There’s a circle in hell reserved for fuckers who can sleep anytime and anywhere. Bastards.

The snorer in my house is a cute as fuck six year old. I forgive him because he goes to bed at seve thirty and doesn’t have the audacity to disturb my quiet time.

NotTheFordType · 28/10/2018 23:34

@Haffiana

I agree! I'd go for Slayer's Reign In Blood as a starter, then everything from Metallica's back catalogue. (OK not EVERYTHING. "the God that failed" probably doesn't need more airtime.) Followed off with a few Megadeth tracks. "Polaris" seems apt.

NotTheFordType · 28/10/2018 23:37

Although an amazing idea, DH himself can sleep through ANYTHING. He can also sleep anywhere at a moments notice, it’s really frigging annoying.

I didn't see this before I posted my love of heavy metal.

This is a really bad indicator for sleep apnae. Get him to the docs as soon as you can. Use whatever lies you need to.

GetOffTheTableMabel · 28/10/2018 23:38

My parents do this. Doze on the sofa between 9pm - 11pm then rally and watch an hour or two of tv and then potter about and then go to bed. They then don’t get enough sleep so they do the same thing the next night.
They take it as a bit of a slight when I announce that I’d better go to bed as I’m starting to fall asleep.

Swearymum83 · 28/10/2018 23:41

Lmao at women chastising you for telling your grown ass husband to stop being inconsiderate and take his ass to bed so you can watch telly in peace... like seriously.

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