Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To bathe baby once per week?

234 replies

StarfishSandwich · 28/10/2018 21:54

He’s 7 weeks. I thought this was totally normal and fine. He gets top and tailed as and when needed - certainly daily! But I don’t feel like he particularly needs bathing. We always bathe him in the bath with one of us so daily would be a complete waste of water. I keep reading about people using baths as part of the bedtime routine and it’s just occurred to me that this means that lots of babies get bathed daily.

AIBU and scummy? His skin is flawless and he doesn’t smell FWIW!

OP posts:
MarianneAgain · 31/10/2018 21:29

svalentine60
I've never known any mother to not bathe her new baby daily.

I certainly didn't - following advice from my midwife who advised using organic oil (think it was calendula) to massage their skin which was lovely for routine and contact... and far better for their skin than water.

DoAsYouWouldBeMumBy · 31/10/2018 21:46

I bathed my DC once a week as a tiny baby, just like you are doing, but then the HV suggested a daily bath as part of his bedtime routine, and it really settled him. Still loves his bath!

Didsomeonesaybunny · 31/10/2018 21:57

I bathed my DD daily but her skin started to dry out so I now bath her every other day and I’ve seen a great improvement. My DD doesn’t necessarily need a bath that often but she really enjoys it and it settles her in the evenings.

oblada · 31/10/2018 21:59

All 3 of my kids get weekly bath, thats more than sufficient. More would be environmentally wasteful and we have plenty of other things to do in the evening. Im sure it'll change when they hit puberty. Or sonner if need be (Currently 7yrs old and below)

HoppingPavlova · 31/10/2018 23:22

I don't think it's a new thing.
I'm 40 and I had a bath every night as a child and always have done as an adult although I now prefer showers.

I think ‘new’ is relative. I’m in my 50’s and showered every day as far back as I can remember. Not sure what happened when I was a baby/young child though.

My parents certainly didn’t shower daily when they were younger as I constantly heard how lucky we were because as kids/young adults they both had an outside bathroom that had been ‘tacked’ on to their houses at some point so you had to walk out of the house and to the bathroom. It meant it was a hassle. Hot water systems took ages to heat back then too so if there were a few people in line only the first two would have had hot/warm water. I actually lived in one of these houses as a uni student, had a daily shower but admit it was often on getting home as it was too chilly in the morning. As was common with those houses laundries were also tacked on with a room built around the existing outside concrete tubs. The place I lived in had an old tree stump in it. Tree had been cut down, stump left, concreted around and room built around it all and tacked to back of houseHmm.

None of my grandparents showered/bathed daily. When young it was once a week generally before church when a portable bath was carried in, filled up and everyone used the same water starting with the father, then mother down to youngest child with as many kids sharing as possible. Then came the miracle of the outside bathroom after the war from memory, still not daily, maybe once a week? I remember once my nanna got something in her hair. Rather than jump in the shower (now they had a regular indoor bathroom) she gave her hair a quick scrub with a bar of soap over the laundry tub. I asked why she didn’t use the shower and she looked at me like I was mad. Obviously not shower dayGrin. People of that age were just not used to having easy access to washing facilities.

Point is no one in my grandparents generation died or suffered from lack of a daily shower/bath. My parents coped as kids/young adults, again no death, sickness, skin diseases or infections. As someone above pointed out, in general they all did more physical work than most of us do now. We have become very precious about these things.

StarfishSandwich · 01/11/2018 04:40

DS has slept 6 hour stretches overnight for the last few nights. Don’t really feel like he’s suffering with his lack of bath so we’ll stick to his current routine!

OP posts:
Natsku · 01/11/2018 09:48

had an outside bathroom that had been ‘tacked’ on to their houses at some point so you had to walk out of the house and to the bathroom.

Lots of houses in my area still have that, they're houses that were built just after the war and the sauna and shower are in a separate building in the garden. We almost bought a house like that but then one across the road came up for sale that had been renovated with a shower room put in the basement. I am pretty sure people aren't bothering to shower daily in the winter at least when they have to go out through the snow to get to the shower!

TiaMe · 01/11/2018 23:39

My little girl is 8 months now, we didn’t give her her first bath until she was 4 weeks...midwife said to leave it as long as we liked as her skin would benefit from it. We now bathe her 2 sometimes 3 times a week and she has the most beautiful soft skin, never had a nappy rash and we don’t find not having it as part of a routine detrimental to her sleeping. You know your baby best and if you feel what you’re currently doing works for you then go for it... oh and congratulations, I can barely remember my little lady being that small, the time goes so quickly so enjoy it all xx

Icanttakemuchmore · 02/11/2018 17:24

We bathed our gd every night (unless there was a reason we couldn't, shouldn't) as it was a routine we wanted her to get used to, bath means bedtime for her.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page