AIBU to buy my 11 year old a doll?

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Dd 11 (just started secondary late August Birthday) is doll crazy and I mean crazy, she lives breathes dolls and babies, birthday money is spent on really baby clothes for her dolls etc

She has 30 plus dolls all her children with names own clothes etc.

She's desperate for a reborn toddler doll for Xmas and I'm currently looking but everyone else around me is saying she's to old etc and at secondary school and I should make her grow up

She's a young 11, really she should only be just starting year 6 has she be been born a few days later

Should I just go with it knowing it will make her the happiest girl alive and make the most out of it while it last?

Do it@ I got an animal hospital figure set for Christmas in yr 7. I'm young in the year & I'd asked for it. I was still playing with my puppy/kitty/pony in my pocket until some point year 8, I think and even then I kept them. They were my adored favourite toys! I'm normal now! I never got teased but I was also pretty careful about who I shared that info with, (pretty much no one at school) just in case. Has your dd mentioned telling others or their reactions?

One of my best friends was a beanie baby collector well into her teens, two girls in my year didn't give up Barbie until some point in the seniors and another had to be gently told in year 7 that Santa wasn't real after it was mentioned in school. My ex also used to still secretly watch Sooty well into his teens. We're all functional adults, I promise. Everyone grows up at different rates.

Mind you, those reborn dolls are creepy.

But buy it anyway!

YWNBU to buy her a toddler reborn if you can afford it - those ones aren't really sold as toys - they're generally pitched as adult collectables and cost around £300! But that doesn't mean she can't play with it.

Yes yes and yes!
How lovely, I wish my 11 year old still loved her dolls, they grow up too quickly and phone's etc become their dolls.
She has just one left buried at the bottom of her toy box as she doesn't want anyone to know! It's sad 😒
Enjoy it op 👍🙂

@OhFlipMama, Smyths sell an equivalent called Our Generation. DD has a couple of those plus reborns.

Just seen your post re her telling people, OP. I'd buy it for sure.

Just to add I bought a 'reborn' for her, will it was a cheaper one, it looked beautiful on the website.... The only thing it could be used for was a Halloween prop 😱

She sounds lovely op. Get her a doll. She's still a child. I'll never understand why some people want kids to grow up so quick. It's such a short time as it is.

Just called to mind a poster on a thread some while ago who pointed out an example of sexism I'd never previously picked up on - men playing with trainsets is considered fine, if a bit nerdy, but women who like dolls are considered weird. And I realised she was absolutely spot on.

I think it's quite sweet, they seem in such a rush to grow up now!

11 is still little. My 13 yo has asked for Ever After High dolls for Christmas.

OP I was still into dolls until I was 12 and then turned into a bloody horror as soon as I hit my teens. Keep her young and innocent! You should be proud she’s playing with dolls and not phones or boys at the rate kids are growing this rate 🤢🤢!!!

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I may not have dolls but how many of us have teddies!

Dotty1970 can we see?

Dolls are something many of us never stop loving. I'm 46 and collect vintage dolls. Both of my DD's also love vintage dolls and the eldest is 14!

Muddlingmackam very interesting when you think of it!

Get her the doll definitely!

Proud owner of a doll loving 12 year old here - she got her reborn age 10 and has played with it non-stop since! She still enjoys buying her clothes and dressing her for bed etc. None of her friends have ever said anything about it and she has her on display in her room. In fact some of them have asked to play with her. Why not? It makes her happy.

FFS, buy her the doll she wants. The best lesson you can ever teach your DC is to not give a fuck about peer pressure. Other people's opinions are irrelevant.

(My DS is 14 and still likes his cuddly toys. I think that's up to him and no one else.)

Of course you should buy it for her! The whole point of birthdays and Christmas is to buy something the recipient would really love - age is irrelevant!

Like SayNoToCarrots I hate dolls (and puppets) with a passion. Creepy as fuck. Never saw the point of them. However, I'm a miserable git . Strangely, my 3 DDs feel the same way... Teddies are lovely though.

FFS, buy her the doll she wants. The best lesson you can ever teach your DC is to not give a fuck about peer pressure. Other people's opinions are irrelevant.
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Yes this! 1000x this!!

I think it's sad that people want her to 'grow up'. She's a little girl who likes dolls, let her be. My DD still has Barbies and she's 25. She hasn't played with them since she was around 13 but they do need 'sorting out' regularly still.

Buy the doll! My daughter was a very mature 11 but absolutely loved her Zapf artist dolls. The last time I bought her a doll she was in her teens.

I’ve just ordered my yr 7 DD a reborn. It’s the 3rd year in a row she’s been asking.

I’m not in a rush for her to grow up, and I want her to have the confidence to be herself. I think the dolls are creepy as fuck though.

If you can afford it and she wants it then why not?

My DD is 16 and has Disney animation dolls on display, and so many teddys, she doesn't play with them anymore but still wants them.