To self indulge in this thread as a timeline?

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I have a situation which should, hopefully, be resolved next year. I need an on-going motivational thread to keep me going because-

1. It's extremely stressful and affects almost everything in my life

1. As soon as it's resolved I can quit my current job which I detest beyond measure to the extent I "play" my resignation speech/scene to help me get to sleep

Due to the nature of the issue, I have to be vague. Not that I'm expecting any replies as such. It's more for me to have a virtual timeline. Although the issue is almost 5 years old so perhaps I'm a tad late . If there is anyone who wants to be equally vague and awaiting resolution of something feel free to waffle away to yourself like I will. Be interesting (for me) to see how long it is from today.

Oh I wish I'd seen this thread when it started! Can I do a quick catch up and join in the general battle for light at the end of the tunnel?

In brief I have anxiety/depression, an addiction issue and a house that borders on something from hoarders from hell. I am attempting to pull myself up by the bootstraps and sort out the mess that is my life, and my home. Since October DH and I have: completely cleared, decorated and replaced necessary furniture in the living room, hall, downstairs loo and DD's room. We have disposed of over 100 black bags of rubbish

We still have the kitchen (due to be replaced by housing association in next couple of months and needs decluttering and deep cleaning before they come), dining room (total dumping ground and probably the worst room, also due some repairs by HA so time pressured), upstairs bathroom and our bedroom to do.

I totally suffer with the overthinking and strategising but not actually doing anything a PP mentioned but, with the forthcoming repairs and the fact that the state of my home contributes massively to my depression and anxiety I have to get this done this time.

Available for handholding and pep talks if anyone feels the need, am aware my problems pale against some of yours but hoping I'll be of some use

Morning @Hidingtonothing welcome!

My, it sounds like you've done amazing already Definitely light at the end of the tunnel

Thank you temp, another load of stuff gone to charity over the weekend so still soldiering on. I swear I can breathe a bit easier with each pile we get rid of though, I've lived in chaos so long I'd forgotten what it's like to have things tidy, in some rooms at least Anyone else inched a bit further down the tunnel today?

@Hidingtonothing - waves
Wow you’re doing brilliantly!
I’ve managed to sort my living room out & got lots of stuff gone to charity/tip. Still a good way to go, but finding the bag-by-bag/pile-by-pile strategy is working.

Had a tough week at work, so yesterday I gave myself a day off & read a book. Not done that in ages! And today I feel refreshed & ready to tackle some bags of god knows what in my bedroom 😁

How’s everyone doing? How’s the resignation speech, @tempname?

This week has been particularly tough, especially on DH His mental health took a nosedive and since this all began, this week was the most I was worried for him.

Fortunately he has brightened as of yesterday after making a certain phone call which was hard for him as he detests making calls. But he has been reassured somewhat so fingers crossed.

I've put my foot down though. As part of the Thing-We-Are-Going-Through, we will need to attend a meeting possibly some distance away. DH had said he would drive but I'm not having him drive us to what will surely be a stressful meeting then driving back. I have said we will get the train the day before, have a nice meal, stay in a hotel, attend meeting, stay over again and train back the next day. Fortunately we have plenty of family and friends who have offered to have DS to stay (he's 11 so no great stakes and he'll be fine staying wherever). The family/friends and fully aware of what's gone on and are very supportive so that's a weight off.

We have been given a resolution date of 28/6/19.

146days from today not that I've counted

Potentially sooner but delays have happened again

And yet another delay. I shall seriously have no hair left at this rate

120 days to go

86 days to go. Things are ominously quiet but we have to have trust that cogs are turning in the background and hold our mettle.

I am the OP btw

An important "meeting" is happening next week-eek.

Nice chat with Burt today and have a chat scheduled with Algernon on Thursday. Feeling apprehensive as usual. DH doing well, considering.

Extremely stressed DH and I ahead of Thursday's meeting. I'm breathless with stress. Fortunately my lovely cousin is letting DS stay with her Thursday night and sorting school the next day so that's one thing that we don't have to worry about also.

I'm scared, petrified that it's all going to go wrong and that, after five years, it will all have been for less than nothing. The whole thing, when all is said and done, is a game. Dependant on others and largely out of our control

Today is a huge day. I am shaking with nerves and DH looks awful.

It could all be over today. If not then by the end of June. But I really hope it's today and that we're happy.

Good luck for today OP

Good luck!

Really really curious as to what’s going on now!

Good luck!

Good luck OP, just seen this thread!

Oh my goodness. It's over. It's finally over. After four and a half hours of nail biting (though a vair naice lunch provided).

Five and a half years.FIVE AND A HALF YEARS. That's how long it's taken to reach this point. And I still can't believe it's over and we're happy. We got the right result. I've cried, I've been a blubbering mess. Burt and Algernon played a blinder while Darth Vader conceded.

Speaking of blinders We've been in Peaky Blinders and I've sunk two double gins in quick succession. And we're off to our local pub to celebrate with our dear friends who've supported us over the years.

I know it's not been a mammoth thread but thanks to all that supported, particularly this morning, out of nowhere

I'm off to get fucking ratarsed

Congratulations! Enjoy your very-well-deserved drinks dontdoxmeeither

Glad it's all come to an end.

Don't suppose you feel like being a litte less vague now? It's a tad confusing for my weeny brain.

Notice going on in Monday then?

Not a clue what your situation was but happy for you it's resolved, and earlier than you were expecting.

Enjoy your celebrations in the pub tonight.

Well ,every day I start a diet ,and by lunchtime I’m on the crisps..I’m stuck in with 2 dc not in school ..although the wheels are turning but it takes time sorting out specialist placements
If I could stop making my kids my excuses and stick to one day ,I’d be ok ..that first day on a diet is the hardest ,and I can’t do it

Glad your sorted op

@Crunchymum sorry, due to legal stuff I really can't!

Thank you all

So pleased for you dont, hope the hangover's not too bad I'm still plodding on with the house, it's getting there, slowly! Got another 'situation' now, another one I really can't talk about but should know how it will go by the end of May so might keep your thread going if you don't mind? Keep your fingers crossed for me though, it could devastate my family if it goes the wrong way

Thanks @Hidingtonothing and of course let's keep it going. Sending you much strength for whatever it is you're facing

Handed my notice in today and, goodnesses me, it felt marvellous