Bloody Christmas and dog drama

[Chillyegg]

So original plan for Christmas was to go out for lunch with me dd Dm and and partner my Dsis is going with her do to his family. Lunch out was can spend and my house was volunteered for Christmas lunch. Fine whatever.
i have stipulated that I do not want anyones dogs at my house. I do not own dogs or like them. My mum has gone to my sister and said that her dog and my sisters dogs can’t come. This apparently has caused much upset even though I wasn’t aware my sister was coming. She wants to pop in now...which I found out via a massively abusive text saying I’ve ruined Christmas and I’m an embarrassment and I’m a bitch blah blah because I have said no dogs at my house. My sisters dog is massive vicious and me and dd are Terrified of the thing. bil is a tit and winds it up so it bounces of the walls, last year at my mums my sister brought the dog and my mums dog and her dog just fought and terrified my dd. My sister has thrown a strop and said she will not be coming at all without her dog ( even though I wasn’t aware she was coming) in a bid to get me to be emotionally manipulated into allowing the dog. As me and my mum want to see our DN.
mum lives around the corner and my sister lives 15 mums away and both dogs are left when all parties are at work.
I have no idea why my family are so entitled and I’m really pissed of. My sister is a lot younger than me and has now fallen out with me over something I have supposedly said to her friends. I haven’t said anything and feel like telling everyone to f*#! Off

Id be inclined to make sure bil didn't come either. He can look after the hound of the baskervilles.

Stand firm.

No dogs. And no sister unless she apologises for calling you a bitch and being so vile.

Tell your mum to stop causing drama and back you up for once.

I don’t let dogs in the house, I’ve always used the cats & allergies as an excuse but even without those issues I’m just not keen. All my family have dogs, all understand & have to leave early etc.

If anyone told me to fuck of, no matter what for, they wouldn’t be getting in the door again.

We've always had big - but well trained dogs, and wouldn't dream of taking them elsewhere especially at Christmas. I used to get annoyed when the in-laws used to bring their yappy dog, who would constantly follow ours around nipping at them, jumping on furniture etc. Ours would finally have enough and growl (never more than a warning) and then the in-laws would get huffy and leave. Even when my husband specifically asked for them to leave the yapper at home, especially after he nipped my son, but they would ignore him and bring it anyway.

Your sister's dog sounds dangerous, I wouldn't have it in my house either, especially near children, and surely your mum wouldn't want her dog near it after the last attack?? Just keep your head up and stand firm. No dogs. If they only live that close by then they can leave them for a few hours, surely?
Sounds like your sister needs to get rid of the boyfriend and the dog and maybe things will calm down, otherwise, just enjoy Christmas with the sensible ones around you!

Your house your rules. I’d be inclined to tell her to pop round to your mums first thing before your mum comes to yours

My husband's family have informed me that it's my turn to do Christmas.
Fine, except that in the 3 years since I last did Xmas, both his sisters and his parents have got (badly trained) dogs.
I am NOT a dog person!

Cheeky fuckers.

We have to take our dog to MIL's and SIL's (we get a bollocking if we don't, they bloody love the silly animal), but wouldn't dream of taking her to anywhere where she might not be welcome, and we'd always check first. We haven't visited BIL at his new place, because it's a few hours drive, so too long to leave DDog at home, and BIL's partner has an elderly cat (not a good combination with DDog).

Your DS is being ridiculous, and your DM isn't much better.

I’ve got a dog I love to bits. But if anyone invited me for Christmas I would assume they meant me and not the enormous hound! Do people really expect to be able to bring their dog?!

It sounds ghastly. Stand firm. If your dm kicks off tell her to volunteer her house

I’m beyond baffled as to why you’d be anything other than delighted that they are refusing to come. They sound utterly awful.

Visit your DN (who must be absolutely amazing if you are willing to put up with all that shit for the sake of seeing them) on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day and dump the drama.

So many people on here put up with appalling behaviour. It’s not ok to call your sister a bitch or make demands about your sister’s hosting. Ever.

My “bil” yo put it in context got arrested when my sis and him first met for throwing a smoke grenade at a police van as a joke as a teenager. He’s a twat of the highest order.

Your house, your rules. I would also refuse to have this dog and BIL around. And I love dogs, in fact, we have 4 greyhounds but they are gentle souls. I understand and totally respect that not everyone would want that many and such large dogs at their place. That said, they are often specifically invited and adored by our friends and most of our families. We don’t really do Christmas (I’m not Christian) but do have people pop over due to it being holidays. A few years ago, a relative of DH tried to invite herself and her kids to ours for Christmas, expecting the full dinner and trimmings but also issued the command that our dogs needed to be locked away, or ideally be kept out in the garden. At that time of the year that is just simply cruel but as an aside, our house and they are much loved members of the family. Was very proud of DH who told them in no uncertain terms to fuck off to the other side of fuck and once there, to fuck off some more. They have told him that they will never get in touch again. We hope they will keep that promise.

My MIL has invited us round for New Years so that the kids can have a “second Christmas” as they won’t see them until then.

We are getting someone to stay with the dogs. I would never dream of taking them with me

YANBU to say no dogs at your house- your DD was frightened by them and even if not, it is your house.

I completely agree OP
We don't have a dog, nor will we ever have one, nor do we want one. Extended family recently got a dog, and the damn thing comes along everytime we go out together. Dog dicatates where we can go, which part of the beach we can sit on (usually the shitty end) which (if any) restaurants we can eat in. I now dread the big family days out.

In your shoes, I would stick to the plan..... No Dogs.

Stick to your guns OP no dogs. Last year sounded horrendous.
Christmas should be about the children and how can poor dd enjoy it if she's terrified?