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AIBU?

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Original poster

Friends husband keeps adding me and removing me from Facebook. Aibu?

46 replies

Diamondangel8 · 28/10/2018 12:36

Friends husband who I am friends with keeps removing me as a friend in Facebook and then requesting me as a friend. He has done it 6 times in the last month. I currently have a friend request from him which I have left. I don't understand why but don't want to really ask. It's peeing me off. aibu? Any clue as why this is going on?

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Jeezoh · 28/10/2018 12:39

Decline it and block him so he can’t do it again. Life is too short to be wondering about stuff like this!

Shockers · 28/10/2018 12:40

Ask him.

SheBangsit · 28/10/2018 12:40

Sounds a bit weird! No idea why though!

WorraLiberty · 28/10/2018 12:42

Honestly that does sound weird

But nowhere near as weird as you not simply asking him what the problem is.

WorraLiberty · 28/10/2018 12:43

And actually there was some sort of FB virus very recently that sent out friend requests from fake duplicate accounts.

I've no idea why you're asking us though instead of him.

MaisyPops · 28/10/2018 12:43

It reminds me of what teens used to do on msn messenger by signing in and out so that their crush would get the little notification on the screen to say 'xoxo ❤Sammi❤xoxo has signed in' in the hope that their crush would say 'hey'.

Very weird. I'd keep polite and accept each time but not engage further.

Agustarella · 28/10/2018 12:47

I have a male friend who does this. He also uses multiple aliases and has accidentally sent me messages intended for other members of his virtual harem (as he probably sees it). I would love to block the guy as he's clearly a weirdo but he once did me a huge favour at considerable inconvenience to himself, and is almost the only "friend" I have in the country I'm moving to. So instead of blocking, I'm taking the coward's way out and largely avoiding Facebook, which is no hardship anyway as I only seem to attract malicious gossipy acquaintances, MLM nuisances, leches and nutters. Watching this thread with interest.

Agustarella · 28/10/2018 12:49

*Honestly that does sound weird

But nowhere near as weird as you not simply asking him what the problem is.*

An excellent point, but would make for a very awkward conversation. I hope that if the OP does talk to him about it she updates us on his response!

PaintingOwls · 28/10/2018 12:51

I'm amazed that you added him back 6 times in one month!

I'd leave it and not bring it up unless he or your friend does first, then just say you found it odd so you ignored him.

WorraLiberty · 28/10/2018 12:51

How is it even remotely awkward? Confused

"Hi John. Is Facebook glitching out? I've had 6 friend requests from you in the last month. I'm worried it's a virus or something".

Honestly, these things are only awkward as people choose to make them Confused

Agustarella · 28/10/2018 12:53

Good advice @Worra

fluffycatinahat · 28/10/2018 12:57

Wonder he has it set to automatically add his contact list? Is this a setting? If so he might think you keep adding him and he has to keep deleting you - maybe he thinks you are stalking him!!

Jux · 28/10/2018 13:03

Why can't you ask him!

Original poster
Diamondangel8 · 28/10/2018 13:04

omg can you imagine fluffycatinahat? I'm leaving it unresponded to. I find him v odd and his wife can be a bit over sensitive that's why I haven't asked.

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PositiveVibez · 28/10/2018 13:06

So delete and block as other pp said 🤷

WorraLiberty · 28/10/2018 13:08

You may find him 'very odd' but he's your friend so surely you can just ask him if it's a virus or not Hmm

SongforSal · 28/10/2018 13:09

The EXACT same thing happened to me a few years ago. After the first 3 or so 'add's', I asked him in front of his wife why he kept doing it it. And he said we had a 'love hate' relationship....No idea what he meant then, nor now. I ended up blocking him for good. A couple of years after I was visiting his wife, and he casually mentioned a status I wrote on FB that he read, it wasn't until I thought about it later, I realised he could not have seen my status as he was blocked, so assumed he had read it via logging onto his wife's account. Found it really creepy.

HelloPeopl3 · 28/10/2018 13:09

I'd definitely sway towards thinking this is the facebook virus. I've had numerous people inform me they've had requests from me.

Aeroflotgirl · 28/10/2018 13:12

Just decline it.

Original poster
Diamondangel8 · 28/10/2018 13:20

SongforSal that is so weird!! Creepy.

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BumsexAtTheBingo · 28/10/2018 13:40

Is just leave it hanging so he can’t tit about anymore. What’s he going to say? “Why haven’t you readded me from when I deleted you?”

bimbobaggins · 28/10/2018 13:42

I don’t understand why you keep reaccepting the friend request. Yabu by doing that. If someone defriends me then that’s it

ShalomJackie · 28/10/2018 13:46

He is friending you and his wife is unfriending you!

YearOfYouRemember · 28/10/2018 13:50

Why do you care since you're only using him ?

Returnofthesmileybar · 28/10/2018 13:50

Just don't accept it, that stops them grlm being able to re-request you but you don't have to block. I wouldn't even ask, why would you? You have the real answer, he's a fucking idiot, anything else he tells you is just made up