To dislike 'momspiration'?

[Esker]

In a cafe toilets yesterday above the baby changing table I saw this poster (hope attachment works). My objections are severalfold.

1. 'Manifesto for mums' - how about 'parents'? Just summed it all up that the mummy manifesto was directly above a changing table.

2. 'Being a mum, it's the coolest thing ever' I happen to enjoy being a mum, but I don't enjoy being jollied along, especially not while changing a shitty nappy, which, by the way is not 'the coolest thing ever.'

3. 'The needs of our kids are very simple' Yes, maybe...but not so simple when you're also trying to factor in work/ childcare/ money/ medical problems and of course the 'self care' that we're all supposed to be prioritising.

4. This one is just me being pedantic / bitter but re. 'The needs of our kids are very simple' ... for me this literally couldn't be further from the truth as my older son has complex needs due to serious chronic illness. Quite the opposite of simple.

I really dislike crappy momspiration stuff like this. All the 'yougotthismomma' type of stuff. Does anyone actually find this sort of thing uplifting?

Vomit-inducing tweeness.

Very twee. Was it in the ladies toilet or a unisex change room?

Disabled, unisex toilet.

That's on a par with 'live laugh love' - especially with that typeface and bold/regular font.

UGH.

YANBU.

I can’t bear any of it.

The instamums, mumpreneurs, winging it, gin, parentingtheshitoutoflife.

Dull dull dull.

But think I’m in the minority tbh.

🤢

We could all just agree that parenting has its ups and downs and then go back to talking about something else.

I also cant stand any of them BonApp

Just been sick in my mouth.

Oh come on now. You've put me off my breakfast. I hope youre happy

Oh god. This and “live laugh love” - get in the bin.

How about a giant wall sticker of the house rules where everyone must love one another and have lots of “laughs” and “good times” all under the big blanket of love xox the jones’s

Hun x

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"being a Mum is the coolest thing ever"

In a disabled toilet, used by Women who may not be able to fully care for their children, isn't a good choice.

It might suit a BF area, but not a public toilet used by any Carer/babysitter of a child in nappies.

Twee shit. Boak. So glad I'm no longer in that stage of parenting, no-one comes out with such patronising platitudes to women when you're at the stage of thinking about secondary school. Or maybe I have just scared off those types of parents by now.

I hate all that ‘moms do the best job’ type stuff that you see on FB...those kind of memes usually come accompanied with a long list of things we’re ‘great at’ which (rather than celebrate) reinforce the message that we have to do everything: nurse, cook, keep the peace etc etc etc. Anything that divides parenting in this way is a subtle nod to patriarchy and the housewife role.

Disabled, unisex toilet.

Even more stupid then

I knew it wasn't just me. Just wanted a good moan

Last week I someone on insta recommending a book about 'self care' for new mums (my fault shouldn't go on Instagram obviously 🙄). Anyway on the front of this book there was a little image of an eye mask,cosy bed socks etc. Parenting is the literal antithesis of self care, as it means caring for other people. I mean , an eye mask? 😂

I could go an eye mask, would mean I can’t see the bloody mess the children seem to magically create just by breathing...

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I think the person who made that picture doesn’t have children.

I find it all unbearably twee. A lovely school friend of mine insists on sharing ‘inspirational’ pictures and quotes on Facebook all the bloody time 🤬 I’d never unfollow her as she’s a very kind person who I like a lot, but this sodding ‘Life is a journey, not a destination’ bollocks makes me want to heave.