The one who got away?

[Chocolatebanana1]

8 years ago I got dumped, by a boyfriend of 3 years, probably my first love. I was young but positively devastated. Fast forward to now, I have 1 beautiful daughter & another baby on the way! I have a good life with a lovely partner. BUT I still have very real pain about this ex sometimes, he has a young son & daughter now (we're fb friends but don't communicate) Although I would never ever act on it, I do still miss him all these years later. Do you have a 'one that got away?!' Do you ever really 100% get over your first love even when you're married/years later? Or am I just weird & abnormal?!

Mine was a relationship I had for four years round the time I was at university. It was very intense and I really believed we would end up together. Unfortunately we bith decided to spread our wings and I was devastated when he met someone else. He eventually split up with her and we met for a friendly drink and catch up a year later which ended up in an impromptu hotel stay. I had missed him so much and it felt so comfortable and right to be with him. We lived in different countries and knew it wouldn't work and I sobbed so hard over that.

A few years later and if had other partners and then met my husband. Thoughts of the first love, I'll call him David 🤣 retreated to more of I wonder what's he's up to rather than I love him.

I hadn't really thought about him and one night he rang my.mobile while i was asleep in bed with husband. He gave a whole drunken spiele about how he loved me and wanted to be with me. I explained I was married, expecting a child and this kind of call was no longer appropriate.he asked to speak to my husband and told him how lucky he was to have me and that he should always take care of me as someone else would snap me up if he didn't. It was a friendly conversation and he apologised for calling so late and not realising I had married.

It was really odd but it drew a line under the whole thing. Now I think of our time together fondly but without the rose tinted glasses and realise we would have been a terrible long term match. Husband and I have had our ups and downs but are solid.