To be a little annoyed?

[SofaKingFedUp]

I have a younger brother, he's 23.
He's quite selfish, always has been since we were kids but whatever.
We've both got a child under 1 years old and I thought this would bring us closer together, as we're not very close, but it hasn't.
He's not really interested in my daughter, doesn't come to see her regularly and when he is around her he'll just play with her for 5 mins then he's playing on his phone again.
If I don't make enough of a fuss over my nephew though, he'd have something to say about it. I try to go to their house when I can but it's quite far away and I don't drive. He and his girlfriend both drive.i have helped them both alot over the past few years, mainly with money, which he still owes me. If he does me a favour I will pay him for it (he's very money orientated)
I asked for my money back that he promised he would pay me back before Christmas last year, every month it's a different excuse but he promises to give it.
I got a new phone the other week and was going to sell my old one, he asked if he could buy it and I said no cos he wouldn't give me the money. He then begged me and promised me he would go and got my mum to ask me too so I gave in. He's supposed to pay me at the end of this month. Doubt I'll get it though.
Last night I asked him if he could take me to a shop with his car to pick up something ordered online as it was a little big, I could go myself but it would be difficult to carry onto a bus while pushing a pram. I told him that I needed to pick it up either today or tomorrow and he said yeh ok. I asked when can he take me then, he replied with "I don't know I need to make sure I don't have any plans first"
AIBU to he annoyed at that reply?
Surely if he had plans he would know about them as it was last night I asked, not weeks in advance? He's not working because that's the first question I asked.
It will take an hour maximum just to take me there and drop me back home.
I just feel that whenever I ask him for a favour he never wants to do it unless there's something in it for him. I don't ask him for favours very often and whenever I do it's usually just can you take me somewhere, but most of the time I just get a bus.
I dunno maybe I'm just a bit touchy at the moment.

oh yeah get the phone back off him. if he's got rid of his old one tough.

A relative of mine used to say ‘If you lend someone money and don’t get it back, it was a good investment’. Meaning that even though you lost the money, you learned that person couldn’t be trusted.

But then she's just as bad, she's also takes things from me and my mum but does nothing in return. She is also a shit stirrer, has caused problems between my brother and my mum before

And this is the family you want to keep together?

Cancel everything online order for collection & reorder for delivery, even if you have to pay a delivery charge it will be less hassle than an hour spent with reluctant brother! If can’t do that get a taxi! I assume your brother will want paying to take you anyway!

In future, don’t do anything more than they are prepared to do for you. No cash advances - tell them your savings have been spent on living costs and loans that haven’t been repaid. How did he know you had savings anyway?

Spend same on your nephew that he spends on your daughter, time & money. If he says anything, point out that it’s same.

Best distance yourself slowly. He’s not going to change.
Get your phone back by saying the new one has to go back as faulty, so you need yours back.

Good luck!

Yes, why do you pay him for favours when he owes money? Keep a tally and deduct it. Don't give him anything before he has paid for it. He is not paying you back because he knows it is not expected.

Hi my younger brother is just the same so I understand and sympathise, it really annoys me sometimes and I get close to cutting him off.
But.... You need to stop giving money! The phone you can't really moan about as you knew he wouldn't give you the money!