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Help me! I sent a FB friend request to my crush when drunk

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Ishouldnotdrink · 27/10/2018 19:15

Name changed for this because 

I have a crush at work and last night under the influence of lots of drink I sent him a friend request. Then thought better of it and cancelled it. Then sent it again. Then cancelled it. I don't know how many times I did this when my friend pointed out he was likely getting an email each time. I don't have email notifications for FB so totally forgot.

After dying inside all day and hoping he doesn't have notifications on either I've got a friend request from him. What shall I do? Style it out and say I was drunk and don't remember it? Or blame my friend for messing with my phone (but then I would have to explain away why I was even talking about him)

For reference I am married with a child and he has a girlfriend

FB should make you solve a complicated maths equation before letting you use it 

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MasterSensei · 27/10/2018 19:19

Seeing as you both have partners he probably won't suspect anything.
If he says anything about all the adds just a 'haha how odd I only clicked it once!, you popped up on my recommend friends list and figured I'd add you'
Technology is always doing weird shit

Feefeetrixabelle · 27/10/2018 19:21

exactly what sensei says. If in doubt blame the tech

Secretsquirrel101 · 27/10/2018 19:23

Don’t say anything unless he does and then do as a pp says and laugh about technology.
You’re married so don’t send him anything which hints at your crush.

Original poster
Ishouldnotdrink · 27/10/2018 19:24

I am overthinking it aren't I! I'll just accept it and say nothing! I may still be drunk

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John4703 · 27/10/2018 19:25

FB should make you solve a complicated maths equation before letting you use it

When I see what I post when drunk a wee bit tipsy I agree

MissionsNotPossibleCosImaGhost · 27/10/2018 19:27

Don’t include your friend as it will involve overexplaining. Practice your best confused face when you do Sensei’s advice if he brings up the multiple requests.

waxy1 · 27/10/2018 19:27

Last time I did this, I messaged again in the morning: “Guess who had gin last night!”

WhiteDust · 27/10/2018 19:29

Just accept his request and think no more of it!

Frankswife87 · 27/10/2018 19:30

Just make a point of mentioning casually oh I had my niece/nephew over and the little darling got on my phone and caused all sorts of havoc 😁

SherlockHolmes · 27/10/2018 19:31

I did something similar, trying to like a friend's post. I kept pressing the like button, but nothing happened.

So, being an idiot, I then tried the angry face, the love one, etc. And of course it was just my pc running slowly.

So my friend saw that I'd liked her post, unliked it, hated it, loved etc etc. Fortunately she realised I was just being dense, so maybe you could blame your friend requesting on similar stupidity??

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 27/10/2018 19:35

Why do you need to explain a friend request? Stop overthinking it.

Jasperoonicle · 27/10/2018 19:38

You sent someone you have a crush on a friend request when you were drunk and thinking about them despite the fact that you are married and your biggest issue is what to tell him about the request? I say DO NOT accept this request, block him and never contact him again as you will sext him the next time you are drunk and it is not very nice to either of your partners.

Brazenhussy0 · 27/10/2018 19:49

You sent someone you have a crush on a friend request when you were drunk and thinking about them despite the fact that you are married and your biggest issue is what to tell him about the request?

That was my thought too...

Go with what Sensei suggested, OP.

Bluetrews25 · 27/10/2018 19:52

Yeah, suggest you just ignore the request. Not compulsory to accept. And soon enough he will forget he sent the request.

MajorArcana · 27/10/2018 19:53

You are over thinking it because u fancy him. I got an fb request from a man who sits near me the other day and i just accepted it. He certainly hasnt given me any justification or reasoning for why he sent it. He just sent it. I just accepted it. Try to channel normal. Act normal.

HoraceWimpIsThisYourLife · 27/10/2018 19:55

Erm I think I’d be tempted to delete the request again, however awkward that may be. Having him on your fb is only going to make you think of him more, which I’m guessing you want to avoid if you are married?

SilentIsla · 27/10/2018 19:57

If you ignore it, it’ll be weird. Normalise it.

abbsisspartacus · 27/10/2018 20:02

i friends requested my ex once i deleted my whole profile in mortification

TheBigFatMermaid · 27/10/2018 20:05

I think most people have their email notifications turned off nowadays. They drove me crazy in the beginning. I turned them off as soon as I knew I could!

KingIrving · 27/10/2018 20:18

Send 5 or 6 other friend requests with at least 3 female + 1 male colleagues, so he won't feel targeted and if he mentions it, just say you were refreshing your Facebook, adding new people that you connect with today and removing old ones you had lost contact with.

And concerning the repeated request, just say your pc froze, so you weren't sure it had gone through.

And make sure to LOGOUT of your mums net account before your husband find out you have a crush at work!!

AlphaBravo · 27/10/2018 20:25

Jesus married people are allowed to have crushes and be friends with those people too.

How low are your trust levels to think that just having a crush on someone = going to be a sordid affair and marriage ending. How pathetic 😦

Guess what! Most of your husbands/wives/partners will have crazy crushes on other women and men. But very few will act on it. Statistically the feelings even being reciprocated are almost nil anyway.

Dahlietta · 27/10/2018 20:29

But very few will act on it.

I think the pp's point was that repeatedly sending and cancelling, sending and cancelling a friend request when pissed was quite possibly the beginning of 'acting on it'.

FuzzyShadowChatter · 27/10/2018 20:34

I agree that having some sort of drunk/not thinking well mode on sites - maths, savings things and asking mid-day the next day if you really want to do that, something - might save quite a few people some embarrassment.

I also agree with "channel normal", which may be hard with embarrassment plus crush. Whether you want to accept it depends on what would be your normal on accepting requests and whether you still want him on our friends' list.

AllTakenSoRubbishUsername · 27/10/2018 20:34

Just accept it, then message him to say you had a weird blip on your FB, some people reported multiple friend requests so apologies if he did, then stay cool and aloof ;-)

Bluntness100 · 27/10/2018 20:37

I don't understand why people are saying accept thr friend request. The whole point of the very short op was she sent him the request. He's the one to accept it or not.

If he says he got loads of emails, just say it's weird. He will likely just think it's face book playing up.

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