to not want sil to spend half tem with her kids here when I've just had a baby.

[maisym]

we've spent hols with her & her kids at parents in laws house during the summer holidays. She does nothing to help & dumps her kids on me.

I have four kids & she's offered to spend a future half term with us to help with the cooking & childcare!! I'll have a newborn.

dh has said fine to her but he'll be at work.

true as well!!!! will have to find that moment to actually read through - rather than just writing about me

why? i never do!

It sounds like you've tried to make it clear to your dh how you feel, but does that include pointing out that she expected you to help even when you were dealing with your 1 year old? That she doesn't sound likely to be of help if you're still in hospital. I think when you've just have a baby you're absolutely being reasonable to not want someone to come and stay for a week, unless you actually want them eg a friend or relative who would support you rather than dumping.

Hope you find a solution,

elkie - I reminded him about the previous hols experiences but it might be easier for him to put this in the past than for me.

maisym, Hi there I am on the due oct thread too...

How about compromising on a couple of days? A week is a bloody long time to expect to stay with someone when they have a new baby. OK so she thinks she will be helping but perhaps say that you both know how tiring a new baby is (which presumably she does too if she has children) and you can't commit to longer than that when you don't know how you will be feeling.

Good luck and sorry to hear you've been hainv other probs too - hope all sorts itself out for you

hi there - have said only when dh is at home not when he's at work. He works long hours & I just couldn't face having to do everything and then be told what a help sil is.

good maisy, hope they listen to you!