Really need advice.

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Hi, I'm posting here for traffic and have name changed.

I'm so confused about my ex. He was violent and verbally abusive but I still love him very much. He calls now and then and we meet up, usually just sex. He tells me he love me but doesn't trust me (I have never cheated on him). He is very possessive but says that he can't be with me as since we have been apart I have slept with other people (so has he!!)

I don't know what to do. This is really getting me down. Any advice appreciated. Thank you in advance.

@Thatstheendofmytether it will be hard initially. I'm gutted I've let myself get into this. But i know I'm not going to meet a decent man, by allowing this to continue.

Stop having sex. Easier said than done when it's good

Advice is gone

I have been there. The only way I broke free was to block him on everything. It was hard but if I didn't know he'd tried to contact me then it was easier to ignore and then a day becomes a week becomes a month etc. I was pregnant and couldn't stay so I had reason to leave and to cut all communication but I think before I'd been reluctant as part of me thought maybe this is all I'm worth and another part of me thought this is better than nothing surely. I was wrong on both counts. Break free, empower yourself it's so worth it I can't even begin to explain. PM if you want to talk.

Please pm me

I
Don't know how to
Do it

Please take The Freedom Program, you can even do it online.

freedomprogramme.co.uk/

Abusive people and bullies are not like that all the time.it s how they work. Think of the murderers no one ever suspected.
But there is only one thing to know. He is violent. Keep away. He will destroy you.

He was going to see me tonight

Just say no
You don't love him
You love the drama.
You love when he declares he loves you
But you know it s part of the cycle and wont last. You know what he is capable of.
Just say no.
Block him.

@cestlavielife you've got it in one !!!

Block him, change phone number, move house, EVERYTHING you need to do to get away from him. You are worth more than this. Yes the sex is good and his declarations of love too but you know it's not worth it when he makes you feel so rubbish.
I know, been there- I gave 13 years of my life to a controlling narcissist who could be so loving and charming, but did my head in. I kept thinking he'd learn to trust me if I loved him enough, but it was never going to work. It's a fault in him, as it is with your chap- he doesn't see he's done anything wrong and no doubt it is all YOUR fault according to him.
Lots of help for you here xxx [flowers}

What on earth makes you want to have sex with a man who abuses you verbally and physically, has zero respect for you and controls you? He clearly doesn't even like you let alone love you. How can that even start to be a turn on?
How can you possible be in love with that?
You think you'll never find another man. So what? You need to work on your self esteem to be the best possible version of yourself. Forget men for the time bring.

@mamamedic I needed to hear that!!
Thank you xxx