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Would you take a 3-4 day old baby to a pantomime?

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:19

I booked panto tickets in December a few days before my due date. I went very overdue with the others so I thought this would be fine.
It's an amazing panto with west end cast in the Hilton hotel, we all love it and I really don't want to miss out.

However, I've found out that I need to be induced at 39 weeks.

I can get a refund that's not a problem. But I really really want to see this pantomime. The other option is to change the dates and go on the 28th December with a newborn baby.

If the worst comes to the worst I can take the baby out and even drive around with him while DH and the kids carried on watching the show.
But chances are I wouldn't need to. I mean my boobs are right there. And all the do is sleep.

My only concern is the germs. Am I stupid to consider it from a newborn health point of view?

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BlueBug45 · 27/10/2018 13:23

Nope.

Unless you plan never to go out with your newborn.

I went to the shops, on the bus and on the train and to a expo all by the time DD was 5 days old.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 27/10/2018 13:23

I'd go if you think you're going to feel up to it - it most hangs on how you deliver and how you recover.

Having your DH there means there's another adult present to take care of the older DC so you can focus entirely on baby, so it seems doable.

BrickByBrick · 27/10/2018 13:23

You might be fine or you may not even be out of hospital. Personally I would cancel.

MasonJar · 27/10/2018 13:24

There'll be coughs and colds and flu bugs galore in a confined space. Up to you but I wouldn't take a newborn into that.

HollowTalk · 27/10/2018 13:24

I wouldn't. What if you're next to someone who's coughing or has a bug? And would you really want to? That's the time your milk is coming in and you cry all day, isn't it?

melissasummerfield · 27/10/2018 13:24

I dont think its so much about the baby but more about you, are you going to want to go out to a panto 3 days after giving birth?! I wouldnt have wanted to but maybe thats just me.

Like you say all they do is sleep and feed at that age so in terms of disturbing other people i dont think it would be an issue

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:25

Let's just assume I'm absolutely fine and we are both out of hospital.

The question is simply, I'm I insane to do so?
It's definitely more about the germs and close proximity of public.

But PP you're right, mums need to take newborns on the bus all the time and that's and even more closed in space! Good point, thank you.

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crunchtime · 27/10/2018 13:25

Sounds batshit to me tbh

SquirreledIn · 27/10/2018 13:26

I'd worry that it was too loud for a newborn.

Kewqueue · 27/10/2018 13:26

Like you say all they do is sleep and feed at that age so in terms of disturbing other people i dont think it would be an issue

And cry? Would the theatre allow it?

Sohardtochooseausername · 27/10/2018 13:26

Gets very hot in the theatre - Could be v uncomfortable for you and your newborn.

kaytee87 · 27/10/2018 13:26

I wouldn't, milk would just be coming in, you'll probably feel like staying at home.

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:26

sounds batshit to me tbh

But you haven't seen the panto. It's awesome. 😁

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drinkygin · 27/10/2018 13:27

Op, what date are you due to be induced?

kaytee87 · 27/10/2018 13:27

Your induction could also go on for days

NationalShiteDay · 27/10/2018 13:27

No way I would go. Newborns should be kept out of such places as their immune systems aren't developed enough to cope with the many bugs that will be floating around, especially at that time of year.

LatteLover12 · 27/10/2018 13:28

I personally wouldn’t but mostly because the day 3/4 hormones are a bitch and I’d spend the whole day weeping for no apparent reason!

Also, theatre seats are not always very comfortable. Will you be ok if you’ve had stitches or end up with a c- section?

I’d let your DH take the older children & you can rest up at home with your pyjamas on!

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:28

It's not too hot. I've been before, is absolutely fine.

And if he cried I would take him out or put a boob in his mouth.

And I felt fine with the other kids, I have no reason to assume that I wouldn't this time. And my milk coming I makes no difference to me apart from my milk has come in.

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Momo27 · 27/10/2018 13:28

No I wouldn’t. I would have been physically up to it , if you have a straightforward birth it’s quite possible to be up and around straight after. But I wouldn’t take a days old baby into a venue packed with kids like that because no doubt they’ll be lots of snotty noses and coughs. It’s very different to the normal up and out with the pram.

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:29

I’d let your DH take the older children & you can rest up at home with your pyjamas on!
No way! I'm the keen one who's desperate to go!

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:30

kaytee the induction is 11 days before. So I assumed a good 4-5 days for that maybe more.
Then guessed the baby would be 3-4 days old.

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kaytee87 · 27/10/2018 13:30

Oh god I was majorly emotional the day my milk came in and cried on and off all day at nothing

Houseonahill · 27/10/2018 13:30

Can't you just play it by ear? Don't cancel and if you feel up to it and want to go great and you don't feel up to it or whatever then husband can take kids instead?

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ThirdChildFourthPile · 27/10/2018 13:30

drinkygin 17/18 December

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LadyLaSnack · 27/10/2018 13:30

If I was feeling up to it after the delivery I’d do it. The baby will feed/sleep on you the whole time, so unless you are sitting right next to someone coughing and spluttering the risk of them catching something is small.

Can you get an aisle seat? That might help.