HMMM,...... NOT HAPPY WITH DH.

[lissie]

hes been late home for the past 3 saturdays. (he plays 5-a-side on saturdays) ive been v angry tha last 2 weeks but tonight im fertile for fecks sake. ds is in bed. how is he going to impregnate me from the pub?!

Do you have to be drunk to have sex then?

I have three beautiful inteligent children, all conceived easily whilst both parents were drunk. Well acttually we weren't with DS2, but hey.

hmmm, well as predicted he was too drunk.

i dont get it, we've been ttc for 18m now. been through so much, had loads of tests done etc and he still cant be arsed to come home at a decent time in a decent state (he'd been out since 1.30!)

Ohhhhhhhhhhhh Lissie XXXXX maybe theres too much pressure for him to perform men crack at the sight of a thermometer and a fertility chart!!!!

lol, id understand if he had to had dye shoved up his fanjo (or simillar) but all he has to do in spank his chicken with a cup and give me a seeing to at certain times!

Im getting a chicken image here i wasnt wanting

pmsl, sorry!

s'okay ......will be back in a bit got an appointment with a hunk at the gymXXXXX

Don't be cheeky Biggitdad. All I'm saying is drunkenness is ineffective as a contraceptive and sobriety no great aid to conception.

I was just pointing out that at that moment in time given his situation I would hold off until he was sober. Friends of mine having IVF have been told to abstain from alcohol. Why would that be? Because alcohol can affect sperm production and quality. I know I sound like a boring git (boringgitdad) but I am just trying to offer advice.

Yeah, but for IVF you really have to make very sure you aren't missing any chance. Sperm quality a big issue because you are only picking out a very few of them. Normally there are millions (?) of them and the weaker ones get left behind in the race anyway, so doesn't really matter that hugely, I would have thought.

Maybe he feels under too much pressure. When we were ttc dd1 both dh and I were constantly thinking about it and having sex just to fall pregnant, dh started to get really stressed about about it and would sometimes disappear to the pub, I would then get stressed as I felt we had missed a chance. After we had been ttc for quite a few months, my grandad sadly passed away, that month when we weren't even thinking about ttc I fell pregnant. With dd2 we decided to stop using contraception and see what happened, neither of us felt under pressure and I fell pregnant the first month we tried.

i thought this, but he insists that he wants another baby just as much as me. obv is worried that things'll go wrong again, but so am i. tbh i think it was purely selfishness.

He'll be worried what things will go wrong again? Have I missed something here?

sorry, since ds was born (v traumatic crash cs) ive had 4 mc's and 1 ep, we found ourt after they'd removed my tube for the ep that during my cs they put my bladder in the wrong place (too low down) so have been in agony for 2y now.

so he's understandably a bit worried.

hmm...i know you'll shout..but do you really want another baby with someone who goes out every saturday night and lies about what time he'll be home?

Mumto3girls speaks wisely.

But if your heart is set on this, why not go with him, and watch ?
Then you can lead him home...

apart from the last month he's not been out in ages and 6d a week he's a fab husband and father. tbh i dont think its even that he lies, he just gets carried away.

Okay - sorry if i spoke out of turn - but it just sounds soo important to you and he seems so easily distracted.

Good luck with getting pg anyway!!

not at all, id have the same reaction tbh. i wouldnt be trying for another baby if i wasnt sure about his commitment, hes just p*ssed me off.

Sounds to me as if part of him doesn't want to do it. (Perhaps it's the pubgoing part?)