To think dh is rude?

[Thenightskymonkey]

Tonight my dh has really pissed me off. We were watching tv and he disappeared off somewhere. When he didn't come back I got really confused and was looking around the house for him before I realised he had taken the dog for a walk. When he came back I said to him that it would have been nice for him to let me know as I wouldn't just go to the shop for 45 minutes without letting him know I was going!

As a single insident I know I sound ridiculous but he does things like this all the time. I'll speak to him and he can't be bothered to answer me, I'll text him and he can't be bothered to reply when I know he is on his phone constantly.

I find it so rude and infuriating because he would never treat a friend or his mum and dad like that but when it's me it's fine!

Every time I try to bring it up he makes out I'm unreasonable and crazy. Tonight he told me it wouldn't be weird at all if I just left him in the house with dd and didn't tell him I was going out. I'm tempted tomorrow to do just that! Although I actually don't think be would notice or care!

He’s being very rude to you OP - it’s disrespectful. It’s common courtesy I would have thought.
I would do the same. You can clear off for an hour or longer. Or don’t answer when he talks to you or ingnore his texts. He’s in control isn’t he. It appears to me it is a form of control too.
He doesn’t do this to anyone else and to me this may indicate I don’t matter.
I’m probably a bit far out but could he be meeting someone ie a fellow dog walker - that maybe why he’s acting so impulsive. I may get flamed but I’d look at his phone (seeing he’s always on it)

I’d wait until he was expecting his tea and take your dc out for tea and leave him to it without telling him. I think I’d start dishing out his own behaviour back. If he texts with a question, ignore him, simply go out without telling him when he’s expecting something from you.

^^ this

I think you're right it probably wasn't wise to mention it as soon as he got through the door, it obviously made him defensive.

Why is it that women always put themselves down and look for reasons as to why someone else has behaved badly? As if it was automatically their fault?
OP he got angry and defensive because he knew very well that he was rude and his behaviour isn’t acceptable. So yes he didn’t like been out in the spot because no one likes to be pulled on their behaviour.

Sounds like he's checked out of the marriage? Or is he perfect apart from this? I wouldn't like it.