AIBU?
To mute the TV and listen...
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 26/10/2018 20:41
To my neighbours arguing?
Do you do this? I can’t really work out what’s it’s about or who exactly is arguing but I’m too nosy not to at least try! Dh is not impressed that I keep muting the TV 
DonkeyPunch88 · 26/10/2018 20:42
Ooh I do enjoy eavesdropping on random strangers' arguing!
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 26/10/2018 20:49
Yes! Ikea is good for this- people argue in hushed voices but you can hear the tension.
TheMobileSiteMadeMeSignup · 26/10/2018 20:51
Oh I used to do that all the time. Mostly to hear what their whiny son was saying. He's, thankfully, stopped throwing temper tantrums mostly now (early teens rage).
didyouseetheflaresinthesky · 26/10/2018 20:53
Absolutely not! If you can't choose a side then you need to get a glass so you can hear more clearly who is being unreasonable.
liquidrevolution · 26/10/2018 20:53
What are they arguing about? Has he been watching open on her laptop? like my neighbours
kaytee87 · 26/10/2018 20:54
My neighbours are too far away to hear anything from their house which usually I'm grateful for as I'm very noise sensitive but I do love to be nosey too 
Usuallytootiredbuthappyanyway · 26/10/2018 20:55
I do that all the time. Last night I muted the tv to listen to my single, male, mid 40s, police officer neighbour talk in silly voices to his cats! Brilliantly entertaining
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 26/10/2018 20:56
They’re not a couple. A woman lives there with her adult son and her alcoholic brother. I suspect it’s the brother she’s arguing with. Lots of f-ing and blinding, ‘get the fuck out’ etc. Can’t actually tell what it’s about which makes me sad.
LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 26/10/2018 21:10
They’re not a couple.
Phew, it's not me and DP then! 
GhouldaLovesLillies · 26/10/2018 21:17
No, I move upstairs so I can't hear them properly. It's depressing how regularly she screams at her idiot drug-dealing partner for being so useless. And now she has a new baby she's even less likely to leave despite whatever dodgy financial disaster he's mired them in.
Poor children, it's now "normal" for them to be in the middle of their parents' domestics.
JillyArmeeen · 26/10/2018 21:43
Yes I do it, not for entertainment but to make sure he's not hitting her.
It makes me feel physically sick hearing him shouting.
Probably a hang up from growing up in a dysfunctional family.
Toptheginup · 26/10/2018 21:51
I used to listen in absolute rage to the sound of my neighbours poor gf getting beaten up, I had to literally be restrained from knocking and yes I phoned the police but she always went back.
Poor girl was young and vulnerable with no self esteem I really tried to help her, gave her lifts to her mums etc, even seen the abusive bf with another unfortunate girl so he was a cheating prick too. I really wish this girl has managed to escape but I moved out as did they not long after.
GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 26/10/2018 21:54
Oh this turned cheery!
Just to confirm, this is a non-violent, just gobby people shouting type of argument. As I suspect most arguements that people have are.
UghFletcher · 26/10/2018 22:06
When I lived in a previous house there was an argument between 2 people in the house across the road.---- I heard muffled shouting and saw wild gesticulating
And I went and opened the helix window in my study to listen to the whole thing
Fridaydreamer · 26/10/2018 22:31
The house opposite us has a grandma, her adult daughter and toddler granddaughter plus another teen daughter (so the toddlers aunt) living there.
They have some hum-dingers at their front door. Full on rage-screaming at each other. The sort of screaming/shouting that really hurts your throat.
Grandmother screaming at adult daughter (whilst she’s holding toddler) about something she has or hasn’t done. Adult daughter screaming back. Sometimes it’s the Teen daughter screaming at the others. All in their front doorway or front garden. Usually ending in a strop off by one party either on foot or dramatically in the car.
Honestly it embarrassing to watch (yet of course I do) and I always wonder why the front door is such a stage for them.
AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 26/10/2018 22:43
We pause the tv to listen. It's usually the same arguments, always ends with them having a screaming match on our drive and him leaving for a few days. I found out recently that when that happens he takes her bank card and phone, and she has anxiety and post natal depression which prevents her leaving the house on her own 
DH once called the police after one incident because the boyfriend was violent to her, and he was worried for her safety. She refused to say anything to the police about the attack and DH was told that there wasn't much the police could do with no complaint being made.
VisitorsEntrance · 26/10/2018 22:52
I can’t hear much in this house unless it gets really loud.
But my last house was a terrace with very thin walls. Just before we moved out a couple and their toddler moved in to the house next door.
The people living on either side previously had both been living on their own so we didn’t really notice how thin the walls were.
I could hear both sides of telephone conversations and I knew that the baby she was pregnant with wasn’t her partners!
Strangely I never heard the toddler.
VanillaSugary · 26/10/2018 23:15
The house next door to us turned into a B&B. There are lots of Trip Advisor reviews referring to it as a Porn Film set as the noise is so loud. We had adjoining stud walls so I agree with the reviewers.
We moved away for some reason.
crispysausagerolls · 27/10/2018 07:52
The flat we used to live in was opposite the road from this female Portuguese couple that used to have their windows wide open and SCREEEAAAAM at each other. Unfortunately we couldn’t understand what was going on though
Frouby · 27/10/2018 07:58
I can't hear much from either side here, but my ndn on one side has several gentleman friends, and they are often replaced by a new one before they realise they have veen replaced. We go to bed early. And usually have the window open.
Have heard a few very interesting conversations .
Oysterbabe · 27/10/2018 08:01
My neighbours have a 17 year old daughter who frequently screams, crashes around, throws stuff out of the window. I do listen to her, partially because of nosiness but mostly concern. I do worry she's going to actually hurt herself or her mum one day.
Pifflepoppycock · 27/10/2018 08:26
I have 3 odd middle aged men living above me and they often have conversations in the hallway next to our front door. My dp won't let me mute the TV to listen. 
I did once however hear one of them shout "I've just been sucked off" ... haven't been able to look him in the eye since.
That and the time I accidentally opened his letter about XXX stiff gel.. "read Sabrina's HOT testimonials ".. ug.
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