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Did anyone else experience this (school doctor examination)

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kennelmaid · 26/10/2018 11:06

This was in the 1960s. I was 10 and being examined by the Health Authority schools doctor, as was all my class. I was very shy about my body at that age and embarassed that I had to stand there just in my knickers in front of the (male) doctor, (female) nurse and my mother. The doctor told me to bend over and touch my toes and as I did he slid his hand down the back of my knickers and touched my private parts. I was horrified but didn't react because I thought that must be part of the examination and because my mam and the nurse said nothing I just accepted it. I didn't think about this again until years later and up till now haven't ever asked anyone if this happened to them. I never discussed this with the other girls in my class because I just thought it was part of the examination and I was too embarassed to ask. Was this a genuine part of the examination or was he abusing his position to touch up young girls?

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HollowTalk · 19/06/2021 19:51

He's about 58 now.

Blue4YOU · 19/06/2021 20:15

This is truly awful. The shit some of us had to endure because doctors and priests were treated like gods

mummywithtwokidsplusdog · 19/06/2021 20:42

I remember feeling weird about a Dr examination at school in 80s... standing in knickers being checked for a hernia. I think it was done professionally but still felt wrong/odd. Probably because we wernt told what was about to happen and were expected to just accept it. In hindsight really not ok although nothing overtly sexual happened.

Spelunking · 19/06/2021 20:52

I know someone in her early 50’s that had an overnight school trip aged around 9/10 and the male teacher told all of the girls that he’d be going round to make sure they weren’t going to sleep with their knickers on. Once they were all in bed he went around lifting the covers to make sure they weren’t.

FlippertyFlip80 · 19/06/2021 21:09

I remember being a little girl of about 10 in the 80's. Our family doctor always creeped me out. I felt like he looked at me in a funny way.

One time I had cystitis. He examined me down below and my Mum didn't like the way he did it. She told him off, I think complained and we changed to a female Dr.

He made out she was batshit. He even said to my Dad years later that my Mum was 'mad'. Yes, she was batshit but I really believe in that moment she was right about him. Looking back, my alarm bells were going off. I enlightened my Dad when I was an adult that I believe he was being inappropriate.

FlippertyFlip80 · 19/06/2021 21:13

I also felt that horrid feeling about my Uncle (my Mum's older brother). One time, when I was a teen, he rang up to speak to my Dad and asked me "do you have a boyfriend. Does he DO it for you?" in a really creepy way. He also asked my pre pubescent brother if he masturbated. Effing creep!

It wouldn't surprise me if he'd abused my Mum as a child (he was a fair bit older).

Again, years later, I told my Dad. He seemed surprised. I think women have that inner voice that can spot these perverts a mile off.

Maggiesfarm · 19/06/2021 21:16

I was at school in the 1960s and 70s. I vaguely remember sitting in my underwear with my blazer on top, waiting for the doctor who was a woman. No I did not have that experience which sounds simply horrendous! What a horrible memory for you, op, I'm so sorry; also for what others on here went through.

blairresignationjam · 20/06/2021 09:33

Holy hell this thread is a thing of nightmares 😥 I was at school in the 80s and thankfully never experienced anything like this.

Carl1000 · 01/07/2022 18:33

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DashboardConfessional · 01/07/2022 18:37

I have never understood why, in the late 90s, we all had to run naked through the shower after PE while the female PE teacher watched with a clipboard. What on earth were they looking for? We always wondered if it was bruises.

Badgirlgonegood · 01/07/2022 18:43

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Why have you resurrected this thread to ask that creepy question?????

I am concerned about this thread TBH

wwyd2021medicine · 01/07/2022 18:57

Reported

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/07/2022 18:58

As horrendous as these tales are, can I just remind everyone that some people(men usually) get their jollies on threads like this.

Badgirlgonegood · 01/07/2022 18:59

I have also reported.

Pawtucketbrew · 01/07/2022 19:08

I reported too. I had a similar experience as a child but like pp said, I recognize that some people would get kicks from reading things like this. Sad as it is I think @mnhq should remove the thread.

Georgeskitchen · 01/07/2022 19:08

This doesn't sound right. I remember infant school in the 60s we were in vest and knickers. My Nan came with me cos my mum just had my baby sister. I'm.pretty sure that there wa absolutely no looking down knickers or touching.
As far as I can recollect I think it was our bones they were looking at

mam0918 · 01/07/2022 19:43

Im sorry you went through that, it definately sounds dodgey.

Im a lot younger with an opposit personal experiance.

I also went to the doctors at 12 year old (in 2000) of my own will with what I am now certain was a hernia.

It was very painful, about the size of a golf ball and protruded through my vagina. I could constantly feel it like there was a ball inside of me and it pressed on my bladder causing issues.

The doctors then absoloutly refused to even acknowledge it, I was told short and sharp matter of factly without any testing that I must have felt my cervix and not to mess around 'down there' then they sent me away and any time I tried to get help again the ignored it and changed the subject.

It was absoloutly NOT my cervix, wrong place, wrong size and my cervix doesnt hurt (I TTC for 9 years including cervical tracking so I can definately say I know my cervix now).

I was in pain for about 3 years (first year was worse then slowly got better) until it seemed to heal itself.

Maybe they acted that way in my teens because they where scared of being accused but it's just as dangerous going the other way too, I wouldnt have been there without damn good reason, I mean what 12 year old want a doctor to look at their vagina?

I have heard stories of young girls with cervical and ovarian cancer not being taken seriously either because some doctors dont want to address issues in 'sexual areas' with young girls.

mumda · 01/07/2022 20:44

Nits and nails.
Thank goodness.

PaulLabiche · 30/09/2022 15:05

I attended a primary school in Great Britain during the nineteen fifties.
In those days it was customary for all the pupils to receive a medical examination. Conducted at the school by clinicians employed by the local education authority.

For boys , it was a humiliating experience.
An entire class was asked to appear in the school assembly hall.
Where the LEA clinicians had installed themselves.
The pupils were then divided.
With boys on one side of the hall and girls on the other.
We then had to undress completely.
And remain like that.
Until it was our turn to be examined.

This was a source of great delight to the girls.
They got to stare and giggle at all the boys wilies.
Whilst the boys had nothing at which to stare and of which make fun.

This was just something that had to be endured by the self and my fellow male pupils.
Possibly one of two of the girls may have found it distressing.
I for one never noticed it.

The measuring of weight and height was acceptable.
Also, the examination by the doctor.
However, at one point we would be turned over to a school nurse.
Who did further examinations.
One of these involved her grabbing your private parts.
And asking you to cough.

Talking with the other boy pupils.
None of them ever told me that they did not find this uncomfortable.

Simply because all of our mothers.
Without exception.
Had delivered stern lectures to us.
Telling us we must never allow any stranger to touch us in that area.
And school nurses with
whom we only ever came into contact once a year.
Were certainly in that category.
Strangers.

The crunch came in my ninth year.
My developed mind had decided I was no longer going to submit to this assault.
When it became my turn to be examined by the nurse.
I agreed with everything up to this offensive procedure.

When she attempted to grab my privates.
I stepped back and told I did not want her touching me there.
She sort of half laughed and told me not to be silly.
When I refused to move closer to her and submit.
She moved closer to me grabbing my arm.

Now.
Shortly after starting at the school.
I was bullied extensively by other boy pupils.
On learning this.
My mother arranged for me to be tutored in boxing. The ‘ Sweet Science ’
And that very much turned the tables.
After one or two encounters with some of the bullies.
And their coming off worse.
My reputation spread like wildfire throughout the school.
And I was never bullied again.

So when the nurse grabbed my arm.
I behaved in a similar manner.
I delivered a precisely aimed ‘ haymaker ‘ to her midriff.
She collapsed like a felled tree.

The commotion attracted the attention of the doctor and one or two teachers who were present.
The suggestion she had simply fainted, was dismissed by one of these teachers.
Who had seen me deliver the blow.

The same teacher grabbed me by one of my ears.
Dragged me to the Headmasters study.

Where I remained sometime.
Not being permitted to dress myself.

Eventually my maternal uncle appeared.
Since my mother worked.
He was the only person available in my house at the time.

I was then quizzed by the headmaster.
His inference was my behaviour was totally unacceptable and thuggish.
I was allowed to explain why I had committed this act.
I explained that I had no other option.
I had after all.
Made it clear to the nurse.
I did not want her touching my privates.
But she had just ignored me.

The headmaster said that I had no excuse.
He would be reporting me to the police.
With a recommendation.
I put before a juvenile court.
He then asked my uncle to comment.
My uncle pointed out that when my case would be heard in court.
That would not be done privately.
Members of the public would hear the details.
And also the press.
And he added that newspapers had a talent for putting quite different interpretation on facts.

The headmaster then asked my uncle.
To take me back to the assembly hall.
So I could get dressed.
He further suggested I be taken home.

Naturally, I was quite worried about the outcome.
And the suggestion of appearing in a juvenile court terrified me.

A week or so later the headmaster summoned me to his study
once again.
And told me that the incident was now going to be considered closed.

The following year.
I was excluded from the school, medical examination.
The LEA had made arrangements for my own doctor to conduct the examination.
Naturally, because he held my entire medical history.
He was able to conduct a far less rigourous examination.
I was only ever asked to strip to my underwear.
My private parts were never touched.

I left the school after a few years.
And whilst at my secondary school.
I heard that pupils were no longer being examined on a ‘ conveyor belt ’ They were examined individually in a screen area.
And they were not required to undress until they were in that area.
But I never found out if the assaults on boys private parts were discontinued.

I am now an adult, advanced years.
But that encounter still haunts me.
And makes me feel for people who were more severely molested during their childhood.

Audrey1982 · 24/05/2023 20:43

I've recently remembered this from a boarding school I went to. I would have been 7/8. I thought i had imagined it and I've never spoken about it and no one else ever mentioned it.

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