Or was this a little insensitive?

[FairfaxAikman]

Six-month old DS is an absolutely shit sleeper- two hours at a time is his maximum overnight and it's often less - and he only manages two short naps during the day. He's BF so all wakings fall to me.

My MIL went to visit a friend who has a DS born the same week as my DS. Tonight she came over and was telling me about it and came out with "this will make you sick - he's sleeping through 6pm to 6am".

AIBU to be a little upset that she thought she needed to tell me that? She knows I'm struggling with lack of sleep.

If you're so broken by his sleeping though why don't you sleep train, I'd understand did he was 6 weeks old but 6 months is fine to start trying to change things?

OP I'm afraid 2 hour wakings to feed are normal at 6mo. When he's a year, google Dr Jay Gordon method of night weaning.

(I co-slept with both of mine, night wakings still hard but much more manageable)

Maybe she was giving you hope that things might improve?

People say insensitive things about babies all the time. Shrug it off.

However his sleeping pattern is obviously not healthy for him or for you so you need to find ways to help him settle without feeding, for your sanity. You will have tried I know, just perseve and let him cry a bit with plenty of reasurrance.

We had a poor sleeper. It's very hard I know.

'I'm afraid 2 hour wakings to feed are normal at 6mo. '
It really isn't. It's a habit not a need and one that needs changing for everyone's benefit.

The only reason I still have my sanity is that he's in a next2me cot but I've never got the hang of feeding while lying down (maybe due to J cup boobs). The only place he sleeps well is the car - and he wakes soon after you stopping. One thing I will say is when he does sleep he sleeps like the dead - you could hold a full scale race next to his cot and he'd still be sound.

My MIL is normally good in that she takes him for a couple of hours every so often so I can get a nap. It wasn't a dog but I do feel she could have kept it to her self.

Aw - I feel your pain. My DS is nine months now, and doesn't take a bottle during the day, but I got to about 7/8 months and we

1. Started doing a dreamfeed about 10pm with two scoops of baby rice in the bottle
2. Started sending dh in during night wakings with a bottle

He has slept through most nights for the last couple of weeks, sometimes waking once for a feed, which, again, dh does.

We still do the dreamfeed minus the baby rice and I've no doubt there will be disturbed sleep to come, but it's helped us for now.

I do still BF to sleep and have no idea how to get him to sleep any other way!!!!

I had a poor sleeper and it is hard, I don't think she was being too insensitive though because other babies do sleep better and especially because she takes him for you so you can get a break. She knows what your DS is like.

gucci I disagree. Both of my babies woke in the night until well into toddlerhood, therefore it must be normal, at least for my two. I know that most parents sleep train, but I believe that this is because they simply have unrealistic expectations of infant sleep.

My nearly-6 year old now sleeps through every night, never wakes, never has nightmares, is never scared at night and doesn't have any sleep issues whatsoever. It was/is hard having a frequent-waking toddler but I see it as normal development.

My three were all like this. You have my complete and utter sympathy OP -it was a horrible time. I still don't know how I functioned.