To allow dd to search for friend?

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Dd’s friend has been missing for the past 3 days (ran away, currently sofa surfing) and dd is very insistent that she wants to go and join the rest of her friends searching for him. Dh says no and she shouldn’t interfere. WIBU to let her go out and search for him with everyone else ?

You have left out the age of your DD and ignored the question a few times.

I'd leave this one to the police tbh.

Dd is 15 (16 next week)

Your DD is a child. This is not a child's responsability

At 15 definitely not! Your judgement seems off here.

Do the police know the huge park was his last known location? I think all your DD can do is notify the authorities if the poor lad makes contact with her but stay away from physically looking. He may not want to be found just at the moment so gangs of kids stalking him might push him further away or into a risky situation.
It all sounds very chaotic and sad, I hope he is located safely soon.

DD needs to tell the police everything she knows, and then let them do their job

It sounds like the young man in question needs to get a grip of himself and your dd pandering to him isn't going to help.

@GadsdenFlag did you completely fail to notice this is a child with schizophrenia?
Your DD should pass on any and all relevant information to the police. If any of her friends know where she is then she should encourage them to tell the police.
By this is not her job. She can’t “save” someone who is ill in this way.

15 is too young imo. She’s incredibly unlikely to be able to assist in any meaningful way, and she could end up getting into trouble herself or doing more harm than good. I would encourage her to keep reaching out by text and social media but not to go looking.

This is too much responsibility for your dd, especially as her friend has mental illness. He needs people who are trained in treating him. She needs to be told that this is not her responsibility as her behaviour suggests she thinks it is. It is up to his parents and medical professionals and the police to deal with. She could do more harm than good, both for herself and him.

Perhaps going to search is the only thing your DD thinks she can do to show support for her friend. She may feel left out or that he will think she doesn't care if she is not out looking for him.

Perhaps you can help her find other ways to help this boy. I don't have any experience with schizophrenia.

For a friend with depression I made a box for her with lots of small notelets in. I got our group of friends to write short messages, jokes, reasons they love her and so on. Every time she needed a lift, they were there for her. At times when she didn't feel able to speak to anyone or ask for their help directly. She has said she got a lot of comfort from them and has put them all back to draw out again when needed.

Maybe there is a more practical way to help him without scouring the streets/parks.