When splitting with DP, did you ever worry about this? ***trigger warning***

[roomdivider]

I don't know whether/where to ask this but here goes.

DP and I are in the throes of a not very amicable breakup. Not acrimonious, but not amicable.

DP is a very gentle person. He's also very passive and has depended on me for many things during our relationship. Our breaking up will mean a lot of changes for him, many of which he won't welcome.

With no specific reason to fear this at all, I find myself worrying that (sorry to say this) he's going to harm the children. I'm not sure whether this is a normal fear? Or whether it's anxiety talking and I should talk to a HCP? Or whether I really should be careful and my instincts are telling me something? Surely not though.

DP is the kind of man who, if we have an argument and he gets really cross, he'll leave the house and go for a walk around the block to calm down. He's not confrontational at all and has never been violent.

I'm a bit scared to talk to my GP about it in case it escalates and she feels like she has to report it or something. Nothing in DP's character or history would give any kind of hint or clue that he would harm even a fly.

In our town in the past two weeks two families have been murdered by the father/husband. Perhaps that's what has put it into my mind.

I think you need to ask yourself how you would feel if your ex spoke to SS about his worries you were going to harm your children.

Make no mistake, if you do this and he finds out there is little chance of you ever having a workable relationship (as in he will hate you).

Just to be clear galatea, there’s no question of me going to SS or anywhere else to ‘report’ fears!

It’s more a question of whether I dare to mention it to my GP or counsellor to try tp get help with it, or whether that would set unstoppable wheels in motion that might well be based on my own anxiety and nothing more.

i can't really think your GP or counsellor would take action against your DH based on what seem like fears that have no grounding in any signal that there could be violent behaviour or depression lurking. I wouldn't worry on that front on getting help for anxiety.