To be pissed off that he's in pain?

[Siestapesta]

On the face of it this must sound v unreasonable.
DH has had a health concern for 2 years. Whilst pregnant with DC2 I begged him to get it sorted before baby came along as it was beginning to affect his mood/ tiredness etc.
He didn't.
Baby is 6 months old and is very high needs. I'm BF and he has reflux/allergies etc which keep him awake at night. I feel awful.
Since his birth DH's health issue has become unmanageable and he eventually went to see a doctor after I forced him. It has become so bad through being left all this time that hes on the waiting list for an operation.😓
It is worse at night so since DC2s birth he has slept in the spare room claiming to be in "too much pain" to help me with the screaming and settling etc. He said he can't even hold him as it's too uncomfortable for him. He does get up with DC1 during the night who wakes 2-3 times for a drink/toilet/cuddle but he gets more sleep on the whole.
I'm so angry that it has got to this and he hasn't been able to help at all with DC2 during the night, it's lonely on my own. I am furious that he didn't get this sorted out months/years ago.
AIBU?

I can see why you're annoyed OP. Yes, it's not your DH's fault that he has a fissure but he could have had it looked at (and maybe fixed) sooner. And most importantly it sounds like he's shirking baby care duties... I managed to hold babies half the day and night with extensive tears and stitching and (in the case of DC1) a broken coccyx. It was painful and a bit miserable, but I did it because they were my babies for holding. He needs to man up :)