I feel like telling my mil to back off. She's very helpful ever since ds was born but I feel like she has different ideas to me.
Mil looks after ds one day a week (i'm on mat leave), so it's been nice to get a chance to do things while he get attention from doting grandparents. I'm really grateful for this and realise how lucky i am.
I want to become a sahm /work from home with my dh until they go to school/nursery class. Mil keeps commenting that I need to find something. She's obsessed with fitting in with other gps that care for their grandkids while parents are at work. She can still have them one day a week like she is now but no more.
A problem i have with her also is that to my face she's like , "is it ok if they have this that" and the other and when im not there she does what she wants. Shes not paid to look after them so i cant dictate. Which is how it is -i dont mind the odd chocolate bar but dont be all fake to my face im not stupid. She lets slip. I feel like if i gave her an inch she'd totally take over.
When ds was born she came over and started sorting the house out ("helping"). My dh told her to call before coming over and she doesnt come over at all now.
Before ds was born we were quite close (or so I thought). She used to support me and my choices but now she seems to be so selfish and I keep civil but i'm closed off from her now. I dont tell anything because she just wants things her way. I didnt have kids for her to look after the way she thought she would. I enjoy being with ds and being a sahm and we can afford it.
Just sad about it. What do i do? Am i being unreasonable not to want to talk to her like i used to.