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To be one of them people that most other people just don't like?

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bigredlegobrick · 24/10/2018 12:55

Long time lurker here.

So I'm in my 20s and I've spent pretty much my whole life being a loner. I did have friends all throughout school and best friends but I was never anybody else's best friend (that sounds childish but you know what I mean!) i never did fit in at school. I tried really hard but never looked quite right or liked the right stuff etc.

When I got into my late teens I had a boyfriend and I just hung out with him and his friends but none of them really liked me, his parents didn't like me... we dated for a few years then I got pregnant and we split up and I just went back to having no friends which wasn't as bad because I had a baby to put all my time and love into.

But now I'm older I have started to think a lot more about how I just never have friends. I have one best friend who I don't see often as she lives far away and she would probably think I was a freak if she knew I saw her as my best friend!

It's not like I'm a social recluse or anything, I go out a lot and always have done but I can just tell nobody really likes me! Two of my siblings suffer from Aspergers and always say they suspect that I do. Maybe this could be something to do with my lack of friends? I don't know.. it just gets me down a lot now.

I've been at my current job a year and everyone who works there is very good friends and they go out for work do's etc- and I tried to talk to them all and be friendly but not creepy but they just always looked at me weird. I talk to a couple of the girls there but that's about it!

What's wrong with me!

OP posts:
Princessmushroom · 24/10/2018 12:59

OP I think about this a lot. I’ve lost a lot of friends over the years and I’ve come to learn that the only thing in common is ME! I’m the problem and I don’t know why.

I’ve honestly turned online for friendships and it’s suited me well. Sure, I don’t have a close girlfriend to ring up to go shopping but I can chat to people all day long

EllenOlenska · 24/10/2018 13:04

I hear you. Both Flowers

Sarcelle · 24/10/2018 13:08

Perhaps embrace your difference? We are not all the same. Unless it really bothers you just accept that you not going to have as many relationships as others seemingly do. Nothing wrong with that. You just haven’t met your tribe, in modern day speak!

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