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My dad is a waste of space! I need to rant!

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Mytype · 24/10/2018 10:52

I posted a week away ranting about my dad but things have finally came to a head.
Il try cut a long story short. My dad has always been the same, he dotes on whatever wife he is with and their children more than his own family. It has ended in my brother cutting contact with him 3 years ago.
We spoke last night on the phone and all I have asked for is more effort for me and my son! We always do a mini Christmas at my nans same date every year without fail. He wanted to change the week because his wife had an art fair. To me he only sees us 3 times a year so those 3 times should be a priority. We got in a huge row, his wife was making remarks in the background to which I simply asked if I could with him alone and his wife flipped and my dad defended her!
I simply asked him what’s more important to him seeing his grandson or an art fair to which he said he isn’t answering because I won’t like his answer! Says it all to me. He let me down so much as a child and I refuse to let him do the same to my son.
I try to talk to him and all I get is “you need to stop doing this and argueing, this is our life now and I need to stop overthinking things!” I’m furious and heartbroken and don’t know what to do next!

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Mytype · 24/10/2018 14:10

Thank you everyone. I expect everyone is going to have an opinion and some may disagree but it wasn’t that long ago (less than a week) where we arranged a FaceTime and he missed it because he was drunk. It’s years and years of always being put last and feeling isolated! But now and older and more wise (I like to think haha!) I’m not accepting it. He thinks because he’s been this way for years and iv kinda let things go because I love him but me and my son deserve more.
Iv been doing some retail shopping and it’s definitely helped! :) love to you all 💕 and 🖕🏻 To all the useless dads!

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