DHs criticism of DS

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Our son aged 7 is plays twice weekly at a team sport(footy) Hes been playing since a young age and loves it.
DH is also a big fan of the sport and loves taking him to training and matches.
However during a match he will follow on the sidelines and stand as close as possible yo where ever our son is positioned and tells and shouts the entire time. The way he does this is awful. He will say things like:
Oh my god what the hell was that!?
What are you doooinggg!
Get over there/here
pay attention!
I sometimes tell DS to pay attention if he starts messing about or if he misses a goal or gets tackled etc, I'll clap and say never mind, or good try now back to it etc...
I try to encourage him.
AIBU in wanting my DH not to go to matches because he brings our DS down, he plays much better when DH is too far to shout or he hasn't come for whatever reason.
I explain to DH but he says I don't understand the sport so no point me saying anything to him.

Awful and so negative!! I'd be really mad about this tbh.

My dad was like this with my brother when he was a kid. Honestly I think you just have to accept it. It's a weird man/football thing, and it won't change.

If you think that’s bad you should see showjumping/pony club mums...

Do you video it? I was appalled listening to myself when my daughter was competing (in a totally different sport).

At our football club, we have the respect barriers, which parents have to stay behind. We all encourage the children to listen to their coach/assistant coach, and as parents we try to help other parents manage their emotions. Some parents can't not coach and you can see the children struggling to work out who to listen to. At this point the coaches wife will usually remind the children to listen to the coach.
The coach regularly takes parents to one side and reminds them that at this age its for fun. It sometimes has an effect other times doesn't make a difference.
Ultimately at 7 it's about fun, enjoyment and being with your friends. Keep trying to talk to your husband, and encourage your son to listen to his coach. Good luck, I know the football field can be a very emotional place. I'm on Yr 5 on the sidelines

My do is a youth football coach. He would have banned your dp by now.

Doesn’t surprise me. My sister played ice hockey, against girls and boys when younger. The aggression from around half of the parents (in this particular case both mothers and fathers) from both teams was appalling. When you’re screaming and encouraging from the sidelines for your preteen child to “take out” another preteen child, you’ve got problems.

I hope it doesn't come to this, but one lad at my old school was taken off the squad for a couple of weeks (slightly older, but still a little kid) after Dad repeatedly ignored requests to tone it down. It was a school team, and the coach was beginning to worry about the school's reputation for sportsmanship. Have you warned him that this is a possibility, however remote?
If you can get a recording, it might be salutary for him to listen.

I've told him he may be banned but he says no he won't because he knows what he's doing and the coaches are apparantly too soft.
I try to go with him when I can to try and get him to tone it down and to show my son some encouragement