To think I’ve missed out

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When I hear people’s tales about their younger days I realise how much I’ve missed out on.

No partying, boyfriends, travel, or adventure. I went to school, college, work and that’s been that ever since.

Obviously I’m grateful for the fact I have a job but AIBU to mourn what I never had?

Go out and make up for lost time

Yabu

Unless you are posting from beyond the grave

I understand how you feel. I never went to university, never had wild partying days, haven't done much traveling and I do feel that I've missed out, sometimes very keenly. I feel extremely boring in relation to some of the people I know, and whereas my liver appreciates it and I've never been one for getting drunk all the time anyway, I do feel like I've missed out on some vital experiences, which does make me sad.

I think you just have to be grateful with what you have (cliched, I know) and, if possible, have some new adventures to make up for the ones you didn't have when you were earlier!

Better late than never!

You can't change the past, but you can change your future.

I feel the same squirrel

It’s easy to say to do them now but these things are enjoyable when you’re younger for a reason.

You made choices. Others took a gap year to go travellng, you went to college. Others went out on the lash, you studied at home.
Right now you have a choice: sell everything, quit your job and do a Shirley Valentine, or carry on as you are.
Don't regret these choices - I'm sure they were made for very good reasons - as long as you consciously made them and didn't just drift. Now that would be disheartening.

If you're looking for advice I'd give this: have an end-game. Whether that is to retire at 50, sell your house and buy a bar in Spain or to learn how to ride a motorcycle and get your kicks on Route 66, have something that you plan to do.
Otherwise you can have the grind of scholl->college->work->retirement without ever having done anything. That's a life not lived.

It already feels a bit like that! Having an end game also feels a bit empty. I don’t know. I feel very odd today

“It’s easy to say to do them now but these things are enjoyable when you’re younger for a reason.”

I agree. Partying in your 30s is in no way the same as doing so in your late teens and 20s. That window has closed for you.

YANBU. But do try and get some travel in, that’s one thing that never gets old.

It’s easy to say to do them now but these things are enjoyable when you’re younger for a reason.

I agree but I think it just means you have to find your own alternatives! I would much rather, say, have friends over for a movie night than go out clubbing so I'll get a few drinks in and we'll have a great night at home instead (and one that we actually remember!). Surely the most important thing is that you have a good time, it doesn't matter where you do it!