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AIBU?

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To be a little flattered by this?

44 replies

Bakingberry · 23/10/2018 12:45

I don't used social media much and most of the time it's related to a few hobbies and interests I have. I recently posted a photo of me and a friend. A guy I follow l, who has a similar interest liked the photo. Later that day he sent me a message saying he's shy but thinks I look cute in the pic. We have messaged before, but just friendly chat about our interest.

I told my friend and she thinks it's creepy and to block him. AIBU to take it as a slightly flirty gesture?

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LittleBookofCalm · 23/10/2018 12:46

i dont think its creepy

Oysterbabe · 23/10/2018 12:46

Depends. Are either of you married?

Thehop · 23/10/2018 12:46

Not creepy, I think it’s quite sweet

PositiveVibez · 23/10/2018 12:46

Well he hasn't sent you a dick pic for goodness sake.

I think it's brave of him tbh. He probably agonised over whether to send the message without coming across as a creep.

PJBanana · 23/10/2018 12:47

I don’t think it’s creepy at all! (As long as you’re both single, obviously).

SaucyJack · 23/10/2018 12:48

Creepy tends to be in the eye of the beholder.

Are you single? Are you interested?

Bakingberry · 23/10/2018 12:49

Neither of us are married. My friends reaction was a bit extreme, I thought maybe I was being naive in not being offended. Just wanted what MN though.

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Bluntness100 · 23/10/2018 12:50

I don't see why it's creepy. It's sweet.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 23/10/2018 12:50

If you're both single I'd say be flattered! He's not being creepy.

LizzieMacQueen · 23/10/2018 12:57

Have you physically met the guy?

Bakingberry · 23/10/2018 12:58

No we have never met. Only follow each other on Twitter. We live at opposite ends of the county, so no chance of a relationship or anything like that.

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Bodicea · 23/10/2018 13:00

Was it the same friend that was in the pic with you? I suspect your friend is a bit put out he honed in on you when she was in the pic as well.

Rebecca36 · 23/10/2018 13:01

What's creepy about that? Sounds quite nice actually, friendly and harmless.

Tomatoesrock · 23/10/2018 13:01

If you feel flattered then he was not creepy to you. I think it was sweet.

TidyLike · 23/10/2018 13:02

Sod your (coughjealouscough) friend! Sounds like his message was respectful and not creepy at all. Something similar happened to my sister ... she was FB friends with various people she knew at school but hadn't seen for decades. One such school chum messaged her about a photo she posted. That was 3 and a half years ago ... they have just bought a house together 😊 After they got together he admitted that he had always secretly fancied her but was too shy to do anything about it ...

Notagainmun · 23/10/2018 13:03

Your friend sounds a bit envious.

CookPassBabtridge · 23/10/2018 13:03

If both single then it's just a flirty message, not creepy at all. Unless he's like 50 and you're 20 

spanishwife · 23/10/2018 13:11

A real non-issue, but sounds like he wants to do some online flirting, if you're up for it, that's your cue!

Dvg · 23/10/2018 13:12

she sounds a bit jealous, i would be flattered. not like he said some cheesy "looking hot babe" or "hot as fk hun" or some creepy stuff

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 23/10/2018 13:13

That's lovely OP, feel flattered, it's nice to get a boost occasionally, whether you meet up or not.
I think your friend has a touch of the green eyed monster.

gingina · 23/10/2018 13:13

Cute?
I hate being called cute - I'm not a child or a puppy!
That's the creepy bit!

beyondthebrink · 23/10/2018 13:15

I was a bit flirty with a guy on Twitter once.

He's my husband and father of my two children now. ;)

MirriVan · 23/10/2018 13:18

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areyoubeingserviced · 23/10/2018 13:22

I actually think that was sweet

Fairyliz · 23/10/2018 13:28

Christ I feel sorry for young men these days. They are still expected to make the first move but must be petrified of saying the wrong thing. everyone is so easily offended.
I personally think it was lovely and it was the most innocuous word he could find to say he likes you.

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